How do i deal with being cheated on?

ok a few months ago my boyfriend cheated on me and i asked him the very second i found out but as all guys do he denied it. so i got the girls cell number and i texted her and asked her if they were dating and she said yes. and i said for how long? and she answered for a year now keep in mind me and my boyfrined has been together for 3. so i told her that it was over between them and if i see her i will kill her. so my boyfriend finally admited to me that all they did wa shave sex but she was still callin him so i called her and cursed her out and told the ***** that if she didnt stop i would go to her house and beat her a**. i dont know if they still talk but some thing is telling me theres something goin on. i just want to be happy and not worry. and the worst thing is that he never tells me where he's going what he's been doing. he said he's changed and my heart beleives him but my mind and my gut dosent belive it. i guess i just need help trying to get that out me head.How do i deal with being cheated on?
Hold your head high and walk out the door and DON'T look back.





She's the one who is blind now.


Your eyes are open, just make sure you actually understand what you see.





Let someone else keep the cheater.


Free yourself to find a man who will treat you better.





Good luck!How do i deal with being cheated on?
he is a liar and a cheat. you would be stupid to stay with him.
dump him.


and girls always do that..


they get mad at the girl who their boyfriend was cheating with. but dont get mad at their boyfriend.


he was in it to!


he was doing it to!


it wasnt just her!


and cheating is never wrong.


if someone is truly and honestly in love,


they wont feel the want OR need to cheat on you.


i think you can find someone better.
Leave him. Thats the best advice. You dont need a guy who cheats and lies! Definitely will take tons of time to heal from it, but you need to leave him.
You need to make a decision......Either you leave himand find someone who can treat you with better respect or turn the tables on him.......Teach him a lesson and go out and cheat on him.....Dat would make me feel better......I bet after dat he will see how much he hurt you and not cheat again
Break up with him. No guy is worth the mistrust and the heart break.
he freakin had sex w/ the girl. break up with him!! dont get mad at the other girl. b mad at ur boyfriend for pretending that u could trust him!!
Leave , he will do it again.
cheating is NOT acceptible! you should totally move out and forget about him forever! he is a cheater and even though you still love him hes been loving other girls sweetie and he prob will for a long long time
Leave that mother f***er!!!! He doesnt deserve you!!! A DAMN YEAR???? I dont think so!!!!!

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What do you do when you think your husband is cheating on you?

What do you do when you catch your father/husband(in response to my mother) sending dirty txt messages to a woman named B J, and he keeps denying that he isnt? My mother and I have seen all the texts which clearly implacate more than just a phone relationship and he keeps threatning that he's going to leave. Plus, he's gotten really stingy about helping us with the house bills. He says he tired of paying them. My mother confronted him and has even sent messages to the lady's cell phone. Because I got the number off it and reversed the phone call. Has anyone here really dealt with a cheating husband, and how did you get past it?What do you do when you think your husband is cheating on you?
You being a child depending on your age should not be worried with this. This is something that your mom needs to deal with. If it is not bothering her then don't let it bother u. If your parents are the type of parents that you can sit down and talk to, I would let my dad know that I know what he is doing and that it bothers me. I would also talk to my mom and tell her that she may need to also talk to my dad and let him know it is bothering me. Sounds as if there is some cheating going on and dad needs to make up his mind on what he wants!!!What do you do when you think your husband is cheating on you?
he doesn't sound like he cares one way or the other. he sounds like and ******. tell mom to leave or to kick him out w/ his woman would be better
You and your Mum should start quietly planning what you want to do next. You sound mature enough to be strong and support your Mum through this, and help with decisions. You both need to ask him to leave or you both leave and stay with family or close friends till you can find a place of your own and move on in your lives. It is very unhealthy for both of you to stay in this position, and moving on is the best option. New life and new beginnings. I guess it will be hard for you both, but even if your Mum has a break right now, it would be the best thing and then if they want to fix things up, they can do that slowly with the help of counselling and family support. Be strong and take care.
If the person you think you love is in a relationship with another woman, believe me, you will never, ever be able to trust him again. Give him and all of your bills to his girlfriend as you kick him out of the door. He is not worth the time or trouble.
First of all...what a jerk! Second, if you mother is seeing these things not only shouldn't she be sharing them with you, but she should be confronting him privately. If he threatens to leave why not let him go if he is unwilling to help with the bills, and there is clearly some deceit.


Tell your mother good luck and that he's a ****** jerk
I would not be with him if that were happening. I am lucky because my husband is very conservative, plus I am younger so I do wear him out. some folks here may tell you to not butt in, but I am different because if anyone messes with my mom messes with me too. Tell that ho to back off or you will kick her a***!
kill him i quess :P
You are an enabler. Dont get defensive. It happens to many of us living with an addict especially an abusive addict.


There are shelters. Sure they suck to go to at first but they help you find a place to live on your own and help you get jobs or education and get your bills paid. THey know short cuts and have lawyers available and other ways to help you.


Women used to stay in abusive situations because they were trapped. There was no way out. THese shelters make it possible for them to find hope...a light at the end of th etunnel.


HEre is a quote by Ernie lawson I really like: ';The reason we sont let go of what we have is that we dont believe something better is in front of us. So we hang on desperately to what was. Until you let go you dont get the beautiful stuff that can be. In living that truth where things can get beter they do get better.';


Take your mom and attend al anon classes to understand enabling and addiction. It will empower you. You wil learn so much. Good luck with this.

After dealing with a cheating spouse, how do you rebuild your self esteem?

I am separated, and dealing with ups and downs, but more ups now that i'm gone than downs. I do know I'm very attractive, but I also know if I meet a guy, I don't know how NOT to give my all, is that a self esteem issue, how do I change from being wifey to gf. I don't know how to date, or just do nothing. I t's like I have to do. ex my gf had a cook out, I spilled my drink, he husband grabbed the mop and started cleaning, I said no I spilled it, so I will clean it up. Then later that night, I bought liquor for everyone, it just felt good inside, later that night her husband said, try not to be so giving, men see that as a weakness. But for me its a strength of mine, I do my kids the same way, and NOW that I'm single do it to myself (giving). Is that something I need to work on, if so how?After dealing with a cheating spouse, how do you rebuild your self esteem?
I don't think being giving is a weakness, I think it's a beautiful attribute. What can be seen as a weakness, is probably not being assertive, taking responsibility for other's mistakes and generally being too apologetic.





Having self esteem is all about recognizing your personality traits and being secure and confident in them, without shooting yourself in the foot.After dealing with a cheating spouse, how do you rebuild your self esteem?
you are you and thats probably not going to change. being a giving person is not a sign of weakness and its not a fault..if all people were that way, the world would be a better place.


its not your fault he cheated..the bastard! youll pick up dating as you go along, just be yourself. there are probably a million men out there just waiting to love you just the way you are.
I was the same way giving to everyone till one something went wrong. From then I became some I didn't know no more. Sometimes gets good to change but not alot. Yes going back to the dating game is hard after being out of the game for so long. Just take your time. go out with friends and family. When you lest expect it, it will show up.
If what you say is true, you need another name other then sassy.


Just know that men will like you without going all the way. I suspect ( by your message) that might be what your really talking about. Being a giving person is a great quality. Not found in enough women these days.
Try to remember what it was like when you were dating. Just sit back and enjoy the company of someone else, let them treat you nice and go from there, after awhile you will become relaxed and start to enjoy the dating all over again...good luck
You need to get laid. Quit being so giving, and take what you want.





Peace.
get divorced, quit drinking
date others
Just date different people....you will get the hang of it. I don't see how being giving can be a sign of weakness......
Don't change who you are. That is the biggest mistake you can make. After all if your pretending to be someone your not down inside then how are you going to ever meet that right man who loves you for who you are? I know how hard the whole separation thing is as I'm just recently separated as well. Honestly I don't know how to do the whole dating thing again either, other than you just go for it and figure it out all over again. I've found the best thing to rebuilding self esteem is to just talk to people and let people get to know you. It may seem a bit odd but even a stranger in a chat room can make you feel better sometimes just by chatting. It doesn't have to even lead to anything it can be just good company and someone who builds you up.
When my ex spouse cheated and I dumped and divorced him, I did not have to rebuild my self esteem because I knew him cheating had nothing to do with me. He cheated because he was and is a loser.





I am a powerful woman with a huge amounts of assets and I didn't need anyone to tell me this...its what I know about myself. I have a lot to offer a guy and I am true to self.





You have to find your strengths within yourself and KNOW it. Don't let anyone tell you what you are; KNOW what you are, know that you are beautiful and a good person and go out there and make yourself a good life.
There is nothing wrong with being a giving person. You need to just be yourself. If a man finds your generosity to be a ';weakness'; then that is his problem. I really don't believe that all men feel that way. Just make sure that you don't overextend yourself or do it just to try to impress. But giving from the heart is just kindness. As far as your self esteem, remember that the person who cheated is the one with the problem not the person cheated on. And when the time comes that you meet someone and go on a date, just be yourself. Be the same way you would be if you were out with your gf. But try to take it slow and don't give ';your all'; away too fast. That can be intimidating to a man or some would try to take advantage. So each time before you offer up something, stop and think, is this something I really want to do. Could this person get by without my help? Really weigh all options before offering your services.

Dealing with my cheating girlfriend?

So basically I've put a post up a while back about how my girlfriend cheated on me (sex with a guy) on spring break. She also kissed a guy a few back ago that I know personally and she knows I HATE (He tried breaking us up a while back)





Anways, I just have a weird feeling like I dont want to look her in the eyes sometimes and something is missing. I want to forgive her make things right but a part of me feels like it'd died and I don't feel the exact same about her that I used to before this happened.





She seems like shes truely sorry, but it seems like one thing after another...I dont wanna be completely heart broken again.





What advice do you guys have?Dealing with my cheating girlfriend?
My advice to you is to break things off already, you are a fool if you think she will ever change her ways, just as they say once a dog has tasted flesh it's lust for human blood is unquenchable, it's going to hurt a lot but it is better not to be stuck with somebody who will hurt you for the rest of your life, find yourself a decent girl, some who ACTUALLY DESERVES YOU.Dealing with my cheating girlfriend?
I think you need to really think about your relationship. If you can't forgive her for cheating on you then chances are it won't work, no matter how much you want it to. In all honesty, i think the best thing you could do is take a break to get your head together and decide what you really want (maybe you should advise her to do the same). If you realise that you really can't forgive and forget then you should call it quits to spare yourself anymore heartache.


I hope everything works out for you. Good luck.
I'm in the same situation right now my bf of 5 yrs never cheated but he has messed up so many times in a row. How many excuses can we handle? Is this really what you want to deal with later in life? if you want to stay with her give another chance and then if anything happens again it's done how bout that? see if she will really change you deserve that.
i honestly think u should break up with her once she does it she will do it again and that gleam thats not there when u look into her eyes is that u dont know her anymore is insecurity.i think u should have a clean break up and tell her that u understand she sorry but that it would be best if you guys were just friends
if my girl ever cheated on me, i'd dump her.


even if she just kissed another guy, my trust in her would be completely destroyed.


so if she slept with another guy and kissed a few guys, dude, get rid of her you dont need that.
i'll be honest with you, if i were you, i never would have taken her back. She betrayed your trust, and i find that unacceptable.
youve already forgiven her more than once. obviously, shes made a habit out of it. if you stay with her, shes going to cheat on you again.
Why stay with her if obviously that she can not be trusted. There's a lot of fish in the sea.
get a new girlfriend it's that simple

Alright, i think i finally need to seek some outside help on a girl problem?

I've known this girl for a while, jackie, and while there's been different periods in our friendship, some points where we're best friends, I just can't shake the ';friend'; image. About 2 years ago, I was crazy about her, but the problem was she started dating this guy who incedentitly was dating about 3 other chicks, and fell ';in love'; with him. At this point i was maybe one of her closer friends, but not really too much. Well as all things must return to their natural state, she eventually unblinded herself to what he was doing(something i helped with a little, hehe) and broke it off that summer. Well at this point i was starting to date this girl who was my best friend at the time, a girl who was jackie's best friend(lets call her ';kara';) also, but she screwed me over shortly later, b/c like jackie, she couldnt get over her ex(still cant to this day). Well jackie helped me a lot at this time, finding a common ground between me and kara, so me and jackie became extremely close, i would stretch to call her my best female friend, but at this time I realized I only seemed to want jackie when she was unavailable, and i didnt think she saw me more than a friend, so i never made a move during this period where we were both single. Me and jackie remained very close throughtout the next year and i don't really know what was holding me back, b/c once she started dating another guy, I seemed to want her again, something a pal of mine pointed out frequently. But throughtout this one year period i continually talked to her about her inability to let go of the original guy who was cheating on her, and her feelings didnt change when she dated the new guy so I begun to give up, b/c after kara I didn't want anything to do with a girl who absolutely couldn't forget a past ex. Well about a year after she broke up with the guy(the original one she couldn't get over), the following summer, she started to cozy up to him again, as though she was oblivious to his girlfriend, a fact not lost on me b/c i noticed a pattern, whenever she started getting closer to him, i.e. that period 2 years ago i said at the top, she started almost pulling away from me. She changes a lot when it comes to him. Well fast forward from last summer to today, she's going out with him, again, and me and her have virtually no contact. How do I deal with this? After kara i went into jigalo mode and haven't pursued a serious relationship since, but if there's once person I would have a relationship with, it's jackie. But i fear like kara, jackie is a lost cause and not worth the energy or the chance of this blowing up in my face. But it feels like i'm too late this time b/c now shes locked in on this jerk, and I feel like i blew whatever chance i may have had. I wish we could at least be friends again, but for whatever reason, she's holding back on that. Believe me, i'm not stuck on her, holding out for her in other words, i'm just saying the only person i would want a serious relationship is with her. What do you guys think? What should I do? Or not do?Alright, i think i finally need to seek some outside help on a girl problem?
awww , wow ! go look for her. true love man. hopefully she won't do what kara did. just dont give up on her.. an if things dont seem changed. then just move on. bhut yu seem to really like her. sounds like shes not worth giving up so GO FIND HER!Alright, i think i finally need to seek some outside help on a girl problem?
move on past the past.


find someone you can be friends with or more than friends with,


it would be the same with a guy friend, once you have found no common ground, you would move on as well, maybe?

Boyfriend talking to his ex..confused?

Before me and my boyfriend went out he had just gotten out of a relationship with his ex, and use to talk to me about it. I told him to give it another shot to try and work it out...He did, and it didnt work out. So me and him continued talking and eventually started going out, it had has been a year and four months since we been going out.


He knew I felt uncomfortable with him talking to his ex so he cut her out complete for me. However he use to say that he loved me but he felt bad for her life , and guilty for how she tried to kill herself after he broke up with her. And he would say i dont want you thinking i like her i just feel really bad.. So i told him that if he felt guilty to go and apologize to her if it would make him feel better. What i meant was one email, and i saw that he couldnt do it he just prolonged there emails back and forth so i told him not to lead her on and just end talking to her. Then after a while i found out he had been emailing her for 4 months straight without telling me having casual conversations, her talking about her father passing away and such, and her askign him to hang out to which he didnt not respond too. He did not tell her he had a girlfriend, but once i emailed her she said that she never wanted him back that she just accepted his friendship.


Then i told him that he could leave if his heart was really with her after i found those messages and that i would be okay. But he told me that he loved me and not her, and that if he really wanted to be with her he wouldnt have broken up with her, and he told me that he always told me throughout our relationship that he didnt want her. So his reason for not telling her about me was that she was mentally unstable and would try to kill herself which she tried before when she got alchihol poisning and that he did not want to hurt anyone.


He gave me all his passwords to all his accounts now and has blocked and deleted her. Before that i had talked to my ex behind his back without thinking it was such a big deal never cheated or anything. So I believe I cant hate him. But I find myself telling him to leave constatly if his heart belongs elsewhere but he doesnt. So could someone please help explaining whats going on in his head?Boyfriend talking to his ex..confused?
Sometimes, you just have to believe him. Like maybe she knows about you, and she is jealous so shes trying to get him back. Ask him if he knows anything else, and just say please please be completely honest.Boyfriend talking to his ex..confused?
If you don't trust him, then don't be with him. If he is telling you that he loves you and not her, then believe him if he hasn't given you any reason not to (ex: cheating, lying). I think you are going to eventually drive him away if you keep telling him to be with her. You are acting like you don't believe him and that hurts. Put yourself in his shoes. There's 2 things you NEVER do to a guy (1) Criticize him in bed (2) Criticize the way he feels about you. Honestly, I don't believe that he should have to give you the passwords to all of his accounts. Just forgive and forget and live a day at a time.


Hope this helps. Good luck!

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My cousin and i were walking around this old house and then we sat on this couch (patio) and we stayed there for a lil bit watching ppl walk around. When we stood up it was me but my cuz disappeared and some girl was there that i considered my friend (unknown person). A car went by that was (5 seats) and there was a guy in each 1 like friends and the 1 in the passenger seat nodded at me (flirting) and the ';friend'; that i ddnt know tried to pull me away but i waved and winked back.... later we were just suddenly at a garage and watching a slideshow on how dates went and i was in a pic with a dolphin (i dnt no how the hell that came in) but i left even after they apologized 4 making me upset... then i ended up outside stumbling against a brick wall and i put my hand on the corner (somehow i thought some1 was there) and next thing i knew the passenger seat guy put his hand over mine and i jumped but i ddnt no whether to trust him or not.... i woke up if u no anything lemme no cause i havnt had a dream in while and im so confused and extras i hav been having boyfriend problems and it deals with cheating and trust so idk if this is y it suddenly came or what thanks xoxo heatherHelp with understanding a dream.... please give serious answers ?
Thanks for interpreting the dream for yourself my friend. You see, everything that is happening is not really that important. You know what is important and i was paying attention to was you and the person you were connected to. That is all and obviously you said what I wanted to say exactly that the dream means. The boy may look like however he wants, you may like him or not, you may flirt or whatever, but this is a sign of your trouble with friendship and falling into the wrongs hands all the time. You tend to fall for everyone who shows you smile and few attracting words and you're all set up. You supposed to be more sophisticated and careful of people you let into your life and make the right decisions that come from your mind, not your feelings and what another girl said. I tell people, a guy in a dream means someone not good for you in real life specially if you like that guy in the dream. If you don't, it means you are aware of that person in real life. So don't be tricked sometimes by the dream itself.


Anyway, you've learned lessons in your life and from now on, you got to change the game rules and take sometime to explore who you are and what you want in this life and then start following those principles.Help with understanding a dream.... please give serious answers ?
!st of all I think your friend is actually yourself trying to protect yourself. You might not be listening to your own gut feelings. Also, you may have been in self denial of problems with your relationship. The guy that is flirting with you is obviously your boyfrnd. Being in the old house is like being in an old or ending relationship. Hope this helps.
hmm... very interesting