Help! How can my friend deal with his Girlfriend who's Bi Polar?

This is a very serious question, and I need a serious answer.......





My friend's girlfriend has a Bi-Polar Disorder. She has ALL the symptoms. Sometimes she imagine things like accusing him of cheating and doing things in the middle of the night(they live together). He is a great guy, he hasn't cheated on her and did none of those things she saids. She would also get angry over little things, slaps him, and even tried to choke him. They tried going to doctors to get her treated, but the medicine they gave her either isn't working or it hasn't kicked in yet. Days ago, she started having one of her episodes again like getting angry over small things, accuses him of seeing other girls, and she still abuses him. When I mean ';abuse';, I mean she hit him with objects in their bed room, causing him to bleed, scratches him in the face, kicked him in his groin, slaps him on his back. She's moved back to her parents place. Today, my friend tried to get her to go see a doctor, but she refuses to leave, still thinking he's doing rotten things and cheating. Really, it's all in her head, my friend is a good guy. There's NO WAY he would even had the time to see another girl. He loves her too death, and will not leave her. She means a lot to her. Is there anyone who has the same problem?Help! How can my friend deal with his Girlfriend who's Bi Polar?
Use it against him when he pisses you off. That's what I would do. I'm sorry if that wasn't the answer you were looking for.Help! How can my friend deal with his Girlfriend who's Bi Polar?
I would say check with a different doctor. She sounds like she has BPD Borderline Personality Disorder. That can be extremely difficult to cope with. The medicines may not have worked because 1) some take up to six weeks to kick in and 2) some patients lie about taking the meds. She needs both psychiatric care and psychotherapy. If her violence continues as you mention, she would be best off hospitalized. Right now, she is best off where she is, at home in a controlled environment with adults who can get her the sort of help she needs. Your friend may love her, but he has to think about his safety first. No one should be subject to abuse. And if someone continues to go after a relationship in which it takes place, they need to work on their issues first.
I agree with Sue-MA to some extent. She needs to be diagnosed EXPERTLY. She may well refuse to believe that she has a problem, however. He should ask her exactly on what EVIDENCE is she basing her assumptions. It seems like EMOTIONAL REASONING to me. More COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS are shown on page M, at 8m.com, below.





Emotional Reasoning


This one is a close relative of jumping to conclusions in that it involves ignoring certain facts when drawing conclusions. Emotional reasoners will consider their emotions about a situation as evidence rather than objectively looking at the facts. “I’m feeling completely overwhelmed, therefore my problems must be completely beyond my ability to solve them,” or, “I’m angry with you; therefore, you must be in the wrong here,” are both examples of faulty emotional reasoning. Acting on these beliefs as fact can, understandably, contribute to even more problems to solve. Read: ';Feeling Good - the new mood therapy'; by David D. Burns, M.D., from your bookstore, or Amazon.com





Consult a clinical psychologist, who believes in the use of the minimum amount of medications necessary. Because they don't prescribe, they are considerably less likely to be targeted by the sales reps from ';BIG PHARMA';. Ensure that you get a written copy of any tests performed (they may retire, or move, etc.). Go to whoever is recommended for the prescription of any necessary medications.





See http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_2… about bipolar disorder (often misdiagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder) then page C. BPD is addressed on pages G, %26amp; X.