Dealing with cheating ?

I'm 21 and have dated a man in his late 30s for almost a year now. We broke up two weeks ago but then we got back together....I don't hear from him for a week and a half and come to find out, he has an online gf that he's apparently in love with...needless to say, I'm very crushed and heartbroken because not only was he the love of my life, he was always so honest and I NEVER thought I'd be in this situation...I'm so distraught over the fact that he did leave me for someone ONLINE and really didn't have to guts to break up with me. That kinda bruises the ego...I'm always in tears and I just want to be happy again. I'm not making any excuses for him but a lot of people suggest he's going through a midlife crisis (this new woman is his age, by the way)...any advice on how to deal with this??





BTW, three weeks ago, we broke up because he constantly accused me of cheating, even though I never did. I warned him about this woman too and apparently, she has a lot of baggage and is still legally married. Dealing with cheating ?
it seems to me that he could really not be trusted... the man you THOUGHT to be honest really was just being second hand toward you... its pathetic that he couldnt be man enough to break up with you the faults he sees in himself is what he accuses you about (ie: cheating) he may just want a change because this woman IS in fact his age and at his level of ';maturity'; im not saying you arent mature for your age because i do not know you but that is sometimes the situation. if he wants to deal with someone that is still married then that is all on him. none of this is your fault... you just need to get out there and meet new guys your own age that will appreciate you for the great woman you are.....just because you dated this older guy does not mean he would act more mature.....good luckDealing with cheating ?
I wont say he is going thru a mid life crisis but he is a fool to fall in love over the internet when he has you there. If I was you I would continue with my life. Star by going out and meeting new folks. Word of advice. STAY away from internet dating. If he has done it once he will do it again.





Go out and have fun. You are young and full of life...
It could be that he feels he has more in common with someone his own age. You should count your blessings that you found out NOW rather than LATER when you could have been living together, engaged, married, or even a child in the mess.
just get another boyfriend and make him realize your true worth. You don't deserve to be a guy like him if he does that. If you want to be happy, forget about him because it's the best thing to do and it'll make you happy. We don't need people like him ruining our lives.
I WOULD DO THINGS THAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER GO OUT WITH FRIENDS.. OR DO THINGS Y OUVE NEVER DONE YOU MIGHT GO TRY AND DATE.. AND SEE WHAT YOUVE BEEN MISSING.. HE DOESNT SOUND LIKE A WINNER TO ME! SO JUST LEAVE HIM ALONE.. CAUSE I PROMISE HE WILL REALIZE WHAT HE DONE WAS A MISTAKE. GIVE IT TIME..BUT DNOT GIVE IN... JUST LET HIM KNOW HOW HAPPY YOU ARE WITHOUT HIM EVEN IF YOUR NOT.
You are too young to be hung up on such a loser. Spread your wings and ditch this jerk.
it's no midlife crisis...do not start giving him excuses....he's just a rat and now it's time to cut your losses. A leopard doesn't change it's spots, and if you forgive him now, his respect for you would be even less. I assure you there would be more surprises to come.


it's hard for us to admit our mistakes and bad judgment, but don't let that cause you to compromise your self respect. move on and date someone closer to your age.