You know......it really ticks me off when other people do something REALLY REALLY bad and other people think you are supposed to ';forgive and forget'; it happened. You shouldn't have to go to some wedding where vows are being taken that were already BROKEN in a bad way! Who's to say either one will take them seriously, but that, thank God is their problem!
Tell you Mom that it's your decision to go...just like it was your sister's decision to sleep with your ex. She wasn't too worried about hurting you then! This would make me want to throw up!
Still, she is who she is just like he is who he is. Who knows, in a couple of years, she may be crying saying she's sorry because she just found him with the next victim. Then you could bond, but I feel for you.
I'm being asked now to daily interact with someone who has done me wrong and feel for you. These books helped.How do you deal with a cheating sister?
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I fully agree with you that what she is doing is rotten, and you have every right to hold a grudge for a long time. She's your blood, and she betrayed you. I say don't go to the wedding. The only problem is you may be shutting yourself off from all of your family. I cant believe your Mom didn't step in at some point. Your problem is tough, with no easy solution.
More practically - in a similar situation, I nailed a piece of smoked fish to their bedhead and bolted iit back on the wall. It took weeks to find it. The house was uninhabitable with the smell.
Wow, that's a tough situation. It's a terrible thing that they both did but your sister is your sister for life, a husband is just signing a piece of paper. It was a terrible thing for both of them to do.
Of course, no one here knows the whole situation but I think given what you said that I would have a lot of trouble forgiving her, but that you really need to work on from within yourself. As far as the husband you are absolutely better off without him. She is your sister though, and always will be. Maybe you need to get your mother to be a mediator or something and get you two together alone where you can get it off your chest and start working on forgiving her. She's got to be thinking about how much she hurt you and she must have things she wants to say to you.
You should be upset at the both of them and not just your sister. He should not have done it either. At the least, he should have asked you first before dating your sister.
It might have been just stupidity on both their parts. But they are together now.
If you are comfortable go to the wedding and be the bigger person. This will allow you to move forward with your life and not get stuck with this in your life. If not, you will be reminded of this every holiday for the rest of your life.
You should not be doing that to your sis and your ex. it is just the demon in your mind. what you got to do is set your mind back to the right path. what you need to do is try to tell yourself, you love ur sis and you want her to be happy. and you want both of them to be happy together. soon your mind will know how the correct it and bring itself to the right path. i can ensure you that you feel a lot more happy when you have driven the demon out of your mind.
Get over it. Life is short and if he did it to you, he'll do it to her.
It is a hard thing to do but I think I would try to talk to your sister before you make a decision on attending,meet with her,see what she has to say,is she sorry for the pain she caused you?? all and all I myself would not attend,though I would still love my sister,even after her betrayl,I could not watch her make the same mistake I did,and I would voice this to her! As for your Mother I would tell her that it is not like you guys are 13 and she stole your shoes,this was your husband,and warn her it would be safer to stay on nuetral ground!!!
If you don't or didn't feel anything for him then what's your point. Your sister did. She didn't get your permission, is that the problem. Sounds like she did you a favor. Maybe he picked the wrong sister to begin with. When you say ex, I should ask if you were married. She's still your sister and always will be. It doesn't sound like she tore this guy from the depths of your heart. Be the bigger person and approach her first. End the drama.
Call her a dirty poota, and rip her wedding dress off at the altar. Your mother is insane, and so is the preacher marrying your sister off to that loser. I'd stop dealing with the whole dysfunctional set--your mother, especially, for enabling the evil deeds of your sister; and especially your sister should be banished from your life, because she continues to do what she does because she believes herself to be superior to you, and she enjoys causing you pain because you are her competition, and she's jealous of you. Your ex is a filthy beast. It is people like that that makes marriage the disgusting institution it is now: it's as if you said someone is pouring raw sewage into the pool, and people are scooping it up with ice cream cones.
Get the picture? Stay away from all of these people--permanently! They are poison to your soul, and you cannot reform them. They are truly evil, all jokes aside. Save yourself, and get on with the business of living. Family is about giving a damn about each other, not stabbing each other in the heart, and so if your own blood betrays you, you must turn your back on them, and build your own family.
should have joined in, 3s better than alone.
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