How to deal with a cheating fianc茅?

my fiance of 1 year cheated on me with a girl that he didn't ever have any ininterest in. It was one of those things where she would lay down and take off her pants. He said he tried to leave but she kept pulling him back, he never finished he left and walked home crying, he wishes he could take it back, he's steal god guy I was just wondering what should I do ? Forgive him or leave him? And how could I forgive him?How to deal with a cheating fianc茅?
Pretty strange. Do you believe that he didn't finish? Do you love him and want to be with him? Would you want to be forgiven if you did something wrong? Forgiving someone may be hard at times. We all make mistakes. It's up to you how you feel about the questions I asked of you. It's easier to forgive than it is to forget. Don't do anything yet until you are sure about what you wanna do. Think it over and an answer will come to you about what to do.How to deal with a cheating fianc茅?
Ummm.... Why was he alone with her in the first place? It's hard to imagine that she layed down on a public sidewalk and took off her pants so I'm guessing he was in her bedroom. He tried to leave, but she kept pulling him back? Is he so weak physically that he couldn't get away from her? Sounds like he is trying to blame her for it and it's him who had a commitment to you, not her. I would dump that guy so fast.
If you believe that everyone should be given a 2nd chance, then give him.


If you don't, then leave him and treat this as a painful experience to remember by.





May your next man be of better character, and that his true love for you will protect him from human weakness of the flesh.





Pray to GOD everyday to guide you all the way.





May peace n love b with u always.
Wow, that sucks,


If he does it again. I'd leave ..
That story totally doesn't add up. I know that a man doesn't normally walk away from sex but I just don't believe that that’s how it happened. That story sounds like he edited it specifically for you to feel sorry for him. Personally I can get over cheating but not when someone lies to me about how it happened. I would get to the bottom of it. As of now I would say he would do it again.


Good Luck
Well, he told you what happened, so that's a plus. It means he feels guilty. The question you should ask yourself before deciding to forgive or leave, is did he cheat just cause the situation and provocation drove him to (without thinking), which is something that happens to most people and they regret afterward, or is he inclined to cheating because what he needs sexually and otherwise is no longer present in your relationship (love is not always enough for maintaining long and happy marriage).


If what you said is ALL that happened, you should consider forgiving him.
A guy will usually only cheat if another woman offers more than the the woman he is currently with, some like the thrill, and often they will cover their tracks, if he has a good track record of being honest he probably is telling the truth about her, was alcohol involved? And why was he alone with her? If she was using force then it's rape, but if he stayed purely because she talked him into it then he must have a low self esteem, you need to talk to him about it in a neutral atmosphere where he won't feel judged and talk to him about how he felt before during and after, find out if he's lying about her holding him back and if he is find out what his intentions were, a lot of women would rather be cheated on rather than just left for another woman, because it means they can talk and find out what went wrong and try to fix it, but if his expectations are too much of you you will never be happy and you'll be better off leaving him, but for him to not just say no sounds fishy to me...
What does your heart tell you?


I am wondering why he was alone with her especially since she has this reputation.


Im not a bible fanatic but in the bible is a story of a guy named Joseph who was a pretty hot guy. He was working for his boss when his bosses wife noticed how sexy he was. She approached him and he turned her down. When she tried to force him to stay he RAN from the building.


I think your fiance is not being totally honest....she didn’t rip his pants off and force him to be attracted to her. He chose to be with her. He has to admit that to you to fix it. As long as he makes excuses then the both of you cant explore the reasons it was tempting.


Infidelity is a choice.


Another point....you are making excuses for him too. You aer willing to put all the blame on the girl .


Is that really fair or honest?


As far as crying and being sorry it happened....he probably is. A lot of cheaters don’t go out looking for someone to cheat with, they are in happy loving relaitonships that they treasure. Its just the opportunity presents itself and their sexual feeligns overpower them.


The first thing you need to do is be tested for an std. Remember female anatomy is set up to store germs and cervical cancer is real.


Second explore your feelings. Does this guy fulfill you emotionally? Physically? Mentally? Spiritually? Are you a better person when he is in you rlife?


Did he try to keep it a secret from you or confess immediately? Can he look you in your eyes and lie? Will your body respond to him 100 per cent or will you hold back now with visions of them? Will you play detective now and wonder if he has the opportunity he will fall to temptation again? Do you love him or who you thought he was? What does this say about his character? About his loyalty to you? How bout you? What would you of done in the same situation? What does this really say aobut your relationship?


can you overcome infidelity? Yes. Can you go on to have a good solid marriage? Yes. But it takes a lot of work and it takes two people being completely honest and working hard on the issues.


This is a real wake up call. You need to do a lot of soul searching. You are the only one that can decide what to do now. Follow your intincts.


It is painful and Im sorry you are dealing with this. You will be ok. Trust yourself.
Just kick him out of your life.
I for one would never forgive a cheater the guy only has one chance and if he cheats hes out plain and simple..i don't care if inside he is a good guy..a good guy doesn't cheat!


And from my experience when they cheat once they will do it again.


You are far better off leaving him and finding a man that will be true to you
You're so naïve to believe his version of events. He boinked her because he wanted to. You should dump him. Your next question will otherwise be, ';How to deal with a cheating husband?';