If you've cheated on someone, how did the other person take it? What did they do?
I'm in the cheated-on scenario, and would like to know how others moved past it/fixed the problem. Idealistically, I would like to continue dating the girl. And yes, she has promised that it would never happen again (it was the first time she ever cheated on anybody).How did you deal with being cheated on?
You call it ';cheating';, I call it ';recreational sex';. It has noting to do with you (in my book). It has to do with having a little fun and a little sex.
If you can't handle it, goodbye. That's your hang up, not mine.How did you deal with being cheated on?
I've been in both boats - I've been cheated on and I've cheated on a boyfriend. To be honest, I wasn't in love with the guy who cheated on me so it didn't matter as much as it would now with my current bf. I would be devastated and I don't know if I could ever get over it. I would try, but it seems like something that would haunt me forever. But if you can move forward, more power to you. When I cheated on my ex, it was extremely liberating (even though I burst into tears WHILE kissing his friend cuz his favorite song came on the radio). But he was a jerk to me and deserved it. And he鈥檚 still single, years later. Haha!
Hey Christopher~ what you have to remember is that people cheat for few reasons. When men cheat it comes from a place of pent up stress and unfortunately men are physical creatures... hence sex, women on the other hand are emotional creatures, when women cheat more than not they are trying to fill the gap of an emotional tear.... regardless cheating is downright disrespectful and it is a choice....
Most important- do you love her- do you see your children thru her- if so then find out the real reason of her choice- what is she missing in your current relationship? This does not point just to sex either- it could be something she is going thru and just doesn't feel the support or needs something that the relationship has forgot about! Remember that women are emotion based, men factual- you see she cheated.... how could she, she doesn't love you whatever... she sees an emotional craziness I can't explain for you- hopefully she can. Relationships take time and effort- communication communication communication..... I say talk to her then decide. Blessings~!
I was married to a whore for 26 years , yes I knew she was a whore when we married but we were young and young men love whores however the one I married never grew out of it she had low self esteem and though I would constantly remind her of how beautiful she was she would not believe me because I loved her and would say that anyway, (she was female) so she was constantly looking for attention where ever she could find it even at the cost of her family. I actually married her twice two thirteen year sentences. and she she cheated until I could no longer take the lying and deceit that constantly filled my life.
i left the girl on the spot when i found out she cheated on me. she went out wit some guy an gave him a bj, i wanted to kill the guy but i didnt even bother she wasnt worth it.. if i was u i would just walk away.. there isnt much to fix once the girl cheats on u you will never be able to trust her again cause it always be in the back of your mind. an to move past it i just forgot her an went on lookin for a girl that would be true... hope this helps an good luck with ever u decide to do if u decide to stay with her i hope she keeps her promise an never does it again bro good luck
y the hell would i stay with that person if they are cheating on me first of all i dont even know till this day if any or my ex's for that matter have cheated on me cuz they know if i found out wow wold i be doing 25 to life staying with someone that cheats on u is bad for ur health and it makes u crazy if u are a type of person that thinks u can change a person that cheats well ur wrong it is better that u stand up become strong and walk away cuz u will never trust that person again never
I have been cheated on once and walked away (after taking revenge). I would never be able to give a cheater a second chance as the trust would be gone and the thought of a partner cheating makes me physically sick. If your truly in love you don't cheat, I have never done it and can 100% say I never will.
i think if she cheats on you one time, she will cheat on you again no matter what she says.
you should dump her and find another girl because if you just let her off the loose she will think that you are just being easy with her and she can do it again.
DONT stay with her
find someone else that wont cheat on you
she already screwed things up. trust me.
Me and my boyfriend have the standing order, if either cheats, the other is gone...no questions asked, no second chances. I would never cheat on him anyway, but when you have consequences for your actions, you seem to take your actions a bit more seriously. If I were you, Id be gone.
my husband cheated on me, kinda, we are in christian counseling, he even got rid of porn. it still hurts me, just not as much as it did.. time will heal, that and her changing her behavior and being faithful
i dont tolerate infidelity, neither shud any1 else, if u didnt only wanna be wit me u shuda neva got commited 2 me, thats how i feel
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
That about sums it up.
I have no idea how to handle it. I've just been cheated on by my first ever boyfriend. And no, I'm not some stupid middle schooler who doesn't now what theyre talking about. Thanks for asking this question.
Well... I like revenge.
I pulled the whole ';Jon Tucker Must Die'; thing
I don't suggest it.
lol
i dunno what happened to u but i cheated back twice
I was cheated on about a year ago. I actually busted him in the act. It was really a horrible feeling. I had been with him for a year and a half before that. I had put up with alot of crap. Him hitting me, him lying to me, him refusing to work and help me support the two of us, and allowed him to hang out with his ex because I trusted them. Wrong thing to do I guess. I left him when I found them together. I avoided him for a week. Even though I couldn't stop thinking about him, and the situation. During that week, I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I spent every waking hour surrounded by friends so that my mind was distracted. I drank alot. And I even got with my ex. Because somehow I thought that would make me feel better. But it wasn't even enjoyable because I had only been with one man for a year and a half. And he was the only one who I found sexually attractive.
When he contacted me a week later, I agreed to meet with him. We ended up getting back together. And I'm still with him a year later. I know he has slept with his ex since then also. His excuse is always that I left him, so he wasn't actually with me. But he knows that I didn't 'leave him'...I only took a break. Because his drug abuse, was causing him to be violent towards me. Everytime he pushes me away, and I find myself feeling like I have nowhere to go. That's when he turns to her. I think he does it on purpose sometimes.
On the other hand, the time I really did break up with him, and screw my ex to get 'revenge'...he freaked out. And brought it up on a daily basis after I took him back. I'm sure it really did hurt him. But what does he expect? That I allow him to cheat on me, and be the faithful one putting up with his lies? I finally lied and said that I had lied about being with my ex. Because I couldn't take him calling me a whore all the time.
Alot of people say, once a cheater, always a cheater. I make myself have more faith in him then that. This last time I took a break, I made a decision. To stick it out with him. Because I really do love him. I know that there are other factors playing a role in the way he acts sometimes. It really is a call you have to make. Can you make yourself forgive her? And will you be able to trust her? Because without trust, a healthy relationship is not possible.
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