How can I deal with a cheating husband?

I have caught my husband in bed with another woman, I am devastated and torn apart...because of his job the house is tied to his job and I have no where to go with my children...what can I do and how can I deal with the hurt?How can I deal with a cheating husband?
Honey, there are shelters.


It is not okay for you to stay there. He knows that you will stay and he will keep on doing it.


Department of Human Services will help you too.


He will keep cheating as long as you stay there.How can I deal with a cheating husband?
Hi,





Go see a solicitor and see where u stand legally, then move on from there.





Being married u r entitled to alot i am pretty sure if u r married the army cannot chuck u out of the house until ur kids are 8?





I may be wrong?





Good luck
get rid of him once a cheater always a cheater the same goes for the women out there
should talk direct to him, make him feel embarassing, anytime you catch - speak loud and loud - and ask - loudly - why you sleep with my husband - what are you doing here - try to shout louder is better
Get out he will only keep cheating go to a shelter, they will look after you and help you sort yourself out and make some friends xx
my dear, really sorryto hear that, I, too have been cheated by my hubby, but never really caught him in the act...but nevertheless, I know exactly how you feel the world is crumbling down on you....surely you can contact your family or a friend who can help you, but remember, in the end, only you can help yourself, first of all, is he willing to repent, and are you willing to forgive and restart with him....really need to have a serious talk with him, calm yourself before the talk, he has to be responsible for your children, even if your marriage is eventually coming apart, he has to ensure that you and your children are well taken care of, it is the least a man can do....I'm sorry to say a man usually think with his d***, but deep down, they still do care for their children, and I'm sure he will not shirk his responsibility just like that, if that's really the worst scenario, I'm sure there are authorities which can assist you....A woman has to do what a woman has to do, confront him, do not ignore the problem as men will be just glad you did or it may end up worse, be strong....
Betrayal is always the worst to deal with. Worse if it was in your own home. Unfortunately the cost of breaking up is equivalent to the effort of staying togeather. What do you want? Talk to a counsellor and a lawyer. Despite what some others have said Marrages can survive infidelity. However your husband will have to realise that your trust will take many years to regrow. Is he capable of the patience and effort required of him to rebuild your faith in him. If not start talking to a lawyer now.
He's unworthy. That's just unacceptable. Take your babies and go... There's always child support.
I feel for you...The best thing you can do is to dump him, cuz (sori to tell you this) he is going to do it again and again. Once a cheater always a cheater. I will suggest you go live with friends or family time being. The pain will go away, eventually...........
That makes it a little complicated, the same thing happened to me and I did kick him out, I wouldn't give him a second chance, find a womens organisation and talk to someone about your options.. the hurt will take a long time but you will be ok best of luck
Kick him out of your place. You get the house because you have the children.
lets march somewhere with trumpets, banners and burning torches and when we get there, lets do something really outstanding
kick him out ,then find a man who will love and look after you.
OK, this is what you do. Contact a Council (local or otherwise), tell them your situation, tell them you are afraid and have nowhere to go with your children, and get on the housing list. Contact your local womens aid centre, and ask if you can go into a shelter - its not palatial - but you can leave with your kids and stay somewhere safe, until the council gets you housed. Get away from this man, even if you love him, he's done it once (that you know of - he WILL do it again. Be Brave for you and your kids, you deserve better.
Sorry but sheer pride would make me walk away. If you are in the UK there are places you and the kids can go - approach your local council for advice. If he's done it once he will do it again. xx
Don't put up with it Hun, take control and leave him. You can always go to special housing and get help from the government.


All the best to you, remember you don't need to put up with that and he isn't worth your time or tears.
speak to a professional counsellor and then a solicitor. As his wife you are entitled to half....................... Also maybe a punching bag would help.


Look after yourself and love those kids. Band together with friends and family.


All the best
Why should you have to leave....................OK so the house is tied to the job.........................well thats HIS problem isnt it!!!!!...................Kick him out.





Its one thing to be cheated on , but to actually walk in on it ........Hunny i feel you pain, and Im so sorry.





Get a lawyer ASAP.





Maybe you could just take the kids to mums while its being sorted out?.................But I still dont see why you should have to leave when he did the wrong.....





I have been cheated on, its not an easy thing to go through .....Good Luck.........
hi, i'm so sorry to hear this...do you still love your husband do you think that you can make a go of things again even though it will take a long time if ever that you trust him, if not there are shelters for women in this situatuion or you could go to your local council and put your name down for a house or you could try the citizens advice and see what they say...is there no relatives or friends you stop at till you get your self sorted out....as for dealing with the hurt you can either sit there and feel sorry for yourself or you can get up and get on with things pamper yourself boost your self esteem and let him see what he is missing good luck
Find a good friend you trust and tell them everything for some good impartial advice.


It depends on if you can support the kids, if you can then go for it. Make the biggest deal possible of it all, make sure his work knows, make his life hell in the house so he leaves.


Tell him you want him to rent you somewhere for you and kids?





Plenty of options, just think them through first.
You have to try and get away from him. Do not put up with this. He will only do it again. And also its not healthy for your kids to be in that kind of enviroment. They will pick up on what is going on between you. Kids are NOT stupid. And it will effect them eventually too.





Go to a friend. Or family. Make yoru husband beg you to stay. He has to BEG you otherwise you are showing him your easy and its ok what he done and he will DEFINATLEY go do it again if you just carry on like nothign has happend. Actually, you could get hiim outta that house. The kids are his and yours, the courts in england will favour for you to stay there. If thats what you want that is. BUt you seriously have to do something.





Goodluck.
I will give ya a hint its under the title for this category and it ain't marriage.


-NmD!
The hurt will dissipate in time and with the proper action on your part. Get away from him. Just go (you can find somewhere to go for now) and forget about him. It will be hard but I assure you, unless he provides very well for you in all other aspects of your marriage, it'll end up being more painful and difficult to stay with him.I am sorry you had to experience this and I sincerely wish you the best.
You can't be with someone when they have broken your trust and have cheated.You don't deserve to put yourself through more hurt and pain by staying with the b@stard! Get rid of him-kick him out. Don't worry abt the house and money, you can get benefits to help you out. don't stay with him tho, you are worth so much more than a cheating pig.
He's the one that cheated you are the one taking care of the kids. Who cares if he works out of the home? That sounds like his problem. Regardless you have to do somthing or things will just get worse.
maybe he would be more willing to make arrangements suitable for both of you if continously brought a bunch of loud *** dudes over day and night.





even if they are just friends of yours or relatives... so long as there are enough of them, or 1 or 2 that are physically big enough to scare him.





just let them stay day and night and party and be loud and whatever. let them hang out with the kids and play games and take them places... no matter how much he complains just refuse to make them leave until he agrees to stay with his new tramp, or at least promise to keep her away til he can help you find a place.





seems extreme i know but he cant legally kick you out either.





plus this sort of thing can be a little bit fun... for you anyway.





maybe they like his clothes and belongings, food etc.. its all yours too and you can share if you like...





he shared your bed.
first of all you did nothing wrong,it was him who cheated/who did bad here. you felt really bad because you cant believe what he did to you and frustrated to his promises and to your idea that you are the only one. i suggest you maintain your self respect and love your self, dont turn out to be an ugly wife physically and spiritually/attitude/character person. are you sure theres nowhere else to go? you can do anything what your mind thinks. its hard but you can, for your self respect and your children. its never helpful for children to live in an insincere parent relationship, they can feel that.
try the local social services who may provide you with tempory accomodation as you have been sadly battered!
Change the locks, empty the bank accounts, put his suitcase on the step and THEN call a lawyer. Anything left of his in the house, have a yard sale with it so you can pay your lawyer!
Once a man cheats on his wife once the chances that he will stop are very minimal. The best thing you can do is leave him since he doesnt deserve you, and this also serves in the best interests of your children. No one wants to stay with a cheating dad, atleast am sure of that. But remember all this requires careful planning.
Do you still love him? does he at LEAST looks like he regret it? IF NOT, dump him. Live is too short to be wasted on a cheating scumbag. You deserves someone better.


Kids? Its a huge blow for them , but you both have to there anytime they need you both. One day they will understand that mommy and daddy separated/divorce not because of them, and you still love them even though you and your husband are no longer together.


Cheers