How to deal with cheating, other guys and crushes in a Serious Relationship?

This is long, need thoughts- Mygirlfriend and I have been together for 16 months. We've had a great relationship with many ups and downs. After about the first year, there was a big problem. I wasn't seeing her enough and there for her, but her best friend, another guy, was. Although time spent together was incredible and beat any other guy, the lack of time spent together hurt us. She had the courage to tell me she might have a crush on him. I got over it and promised to change. The thing is, it was too late. A month later i found out she had cheated on me. I loved her and felt like i had already given in so i stayed with her. She has avoided this guy since but often misses her close frienship with him, before they got intamite. Maybe I was wrong to forgive her but I did. Should i be worried that she misses him? When her friends go out and he's there, i don't want her there. She gets upset and feels like she can't see her friends anymore because he's always there? What should i do?How to deal with cheating, other guys and crushes in a Serious Relationship?
Bottom line, if you aren't there for your girl some other man will be. You probably have learned this the hard way.





I am glad you seen that you were in the wrong, but also see that she was too. She should have given you the time to change before sleeping with him.





If you want to stay together you both will have to make sacrifices. You taking time away from other things to spend with her and she has to not be around this guy, whatever the consequences may be.





Bottom line ask her, would she rather have you or be able to hang with him (or hang with people who hang with him). Tell her she needs to choose. If she keeps seeing him, chances are she wil try to rekindle the friendship they had before they slept together, and that might lead to her cheating again.