How do you deal with cheating?

So it's not necessarily a sexual form of cheating, but recently I found out my fiancee has been talking/flirting with two different men, one of whom she has had a sexual relationship in the past. Now's she's telling me how she needs our relationship to work and she needs me in her life, but how can I deal with her, and more importantly love her, when she's living this secret life behind my back?How do you deal with cheating?
she is telling u she needs u, sounds selfish to me, she should be telling u that she wants u instead. u need to confront her with what u know, but if she is doing these things before marriage, it may be just a glimpse of what marriage to her will be like. needs and wants mean two different things to me.How do you deal with cheating?
I kinda did the same thing to my husband recently and we went to a few sessions of couples counseling to talk about the problems we had that led me to do what I did and that really helped the both of us.





The counselor recommended a book for my husband and my hubby said this book is really helping. It's called After The Affair (can't remember the name of the author) and even though it's called after the affair, it's good for any couple going through trust issues or any type of unfaithfulness.





From a woman's point of view, if she really regrets it and is sorry and will do anything to earn your trust back then it will be worth it in the long run and the two of you may have a stronger relationship than you ever thought was possible. Hang in there, and if you decide to stick with her then know that it may take awhile to trust her again, and that's completely normal. Thanks for being a great guy, we need more guys like you out there :)
First off sorry you've had to deal with this. I think the best way to get pass this or ';deal with it'; would be to talk to her about it (without fighting). Tell her how you felt when you found out. Ask her why she is behaving this way towards other guys. Just talk it out first. Also let her know that if it happens again the wedding is off. Even if it wouldn't be you have to put her in her place to let her know that you won't be accepting this kind of behavior.





And remember. You have to forgive before you can move on.





I would also recomend you(and her) watch this moive called fireproof. I think it would help your relationship. You can get it at walmart if you have that where you live.
I would find a woman who will put you first and only in her life. If there is a list of men, then she is not good enough for you, even if you are #1 on her list.
I dont deal with cheating period.
She needs to be honest about it and you need to know that it's over for you to begin to regain trust in her.
';needing'; someone is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.


relationships should have mutual feelings.


if you cant trust her, you cant be in this relationship.
Break it down for her like this: she can have you, or someone else, but not both. Then do what you have to do based on her response.
Once the trust is gone, man, it is hard to overcome that bro. Perhaps you should find someone you do trust.
TELL HER YOU ARE GOING TO DO THE SAME THING AND HOW SHE REACT TO THAT BUT CHEATING IS CHEATING SEX, FLIRTING,ETC
I don't deal with it. No deal howie.
I would break off the engagement and find someone who loves you and only you





she might go further later on
I don't have a penis anymore, so I can tell you that is how my wife deals with it...