How to deal with cheating fiance?

I have been with a girl for 4 years now, last year I proposed to her and she said yes. We have been a dream couple, as we were freinds and went up through grade school together. I am in my 3rd year of post-secondary doing a marine related program which has workterms which involve me going away for 2-4 months at a time. This summer while I was away my fiance had sex with another man. She recently admitted it to me as I new something was wrong, because she acted differently since I came home. It was a one night thing and it hasn't continued I know this for a fact, however I love her so much and I dont know what to do. My fiance started taking Paxil (an antidepressant) before I went away to help deal with her childhood. (Alcholic dad) and it had made her so distant. I do know when she had sex with him she had been drinking (which she never does) and I am wondering if the pills along with the alcohol had an influence. I love her very much and I know she feels bad, but what do I do?How to deal with cheating fiance?
I think that you guys need some psychological help or relationship counceling. You need to find out what the root of the problem is with your fiance. Once she identifies it she can work on putting it behind her start living for the future. Many people are tempted to have sex with another person when the other one is away. We are only human and we have needs. But if she did it because she was drunk then that is another story. She may be trying to turn to antidepressents and alcohol as a coping mechanism. If you really love her, and I think you do. Forgive her for cheating on you, and get her professional help not a doctor that will just prescribe medicine to ease the pain.





You guys can do it. You can get through this whole ordeal together.How to deal with cheating fiance?
If you love her and think that you both can make the effort to forgive and forget, then you should stay together.





However, people are always saying that something or other caused someone to cheat, like alcohol or drugs. But neither one makes your clothes fall off. Make sure you find out the reason that she cheated, don't let d or d be the reason used. Happy people don't cheat.
Sorry but you should NOT marry her. Some people have no control. My guy could be gone forever and I would NEVER cheat .I have too much respect for myself and him.
don't marry her yet. you'll never know if she'll ever do it again.


stick around with her longer to rebuild the trust. if she still sleeps with another man, give her the boot or the bible.
It sounds like you do love your fiancee. An anti-depressive with alcohol can cause all kinds of effects, including that - loss of inhibitions. You are dealing with a lot here and so is your fiancee. Counseling can only benefit both of you. Please try it.
I first want to say that I admire you for not throwing in the towel, God Bless you on that, I say you have a great love for this girl, and the same for this girl with you, because if she didn't fully love you she would have not been honest with you and the affair and then the guilt behind that, you are right you cannot go into the past and erase what happen, now you need to take it to the next level and that is moving on from this point and I really would advise that professional therapy help would greatly benefit you and your relationship, the pills and the alcohol together can have a profound effect when combine together which is no excuse for what has happen, but I would strongly suggest going to therapy and working thru it and this is something that can be worked thru, with love alot can be forgiven. Good luck and God Bless.....
cut her off once a cheater always a cheater hey it might be hard at first to leave her which it always is because women we go deep with are feeling we share them completely with or other not like men its gonna hurt sweetie but in time she wont hurt you anymore because it hurt when they cheat on you an sweet talk ya back in to loving them but girl break free it better when you look back an see them for who they really are


i learn from my past experience
You are going to have these problems for the rest of your life if you go on and marry her still. Find someone a little more emotionally stable. I know it is hard when you love someone, but she is a basket case and will cheat on you again. There will be rough times in your marriage as there are in all marriages, she will just use that as an excuse to justify it.
This girl is not one you want to marry. She is not only a cheater but she has issues that will destroy the relationship down the road. You are already looking for reasons to excuse her behavior. Don't even start down that road.





I know you love her and it's too bad that she's the way she is, but why choose a girl like that to start a family with? I know that sounds hard and maybe even unfair, but so is getting stuck with a cheater right from the start.