How to deal with cheating husband?

Right after thanksgiving I found out my husband was cheating,the way i found out was a female had left a voice message on my husband cell wanting to meet at a motel. my husband told me that it was only talk between them. now i found out she works at a near by store where my husband would go get drinks while out working he is a truck driver for a company in our town. I ask him to leave and he went to stay with his son while his another son continued staying with me I have helped him raise both his boy's. my oldest step-son decide he wanted his brother to come stay with him. now my husband not calling me the boy's arent either because their dad has turn them against me i feel so hurt inside because i been their mom and a good wife to my husband we have been married 10yrs. my husband was taking paxil for yrs then went off of it then all of a sudden he started not being this person i don't even know. he even got mad at his son once for cheating on his girlfriend now he has done this to me im not only hurt over what my husband has done but for my step-son to act the way they are for no reason I don't know what to do i have seen my husband a few times in town he tells me he loves me but he don't call i don't know what to do it hurts me alot any advice.How to deal with cheating husband?
Leave the cheating jerk. And try to have a talk with the boys to see if he told them something about you. If they don't want to talk to you, then hopefully they will one day. Just be the good person you are and maybe they will come around, but leave the cheating jerk. He aint worth it.How to deal with cheating husband?
I know he's your husband but you don't need a man like that! You're too good for that! And I'm sure that you're too beautfiful for that! If I were you I would get even. I am very sorry you have to go through this. But I would do little things just to make him angry. I can't think of any good examples right now but, I'm sure you can come up with something. If this isn't a good way for you to deal with it then just realize he's a snake and try to leave him. I know it may be hard. Again, you don't need some one like that. I hope this helps.
heres what u do


1. kick him in the weiner


2. tell everyone he knows


3. repeat step one


4. beat up the girl that he was with


5. repeat step one


6. shave his eyebrows off while he is sleeping


7. repeat step one


8. tell everyone he has a small dick


9. repeat step 8


10. repeat step one several times
He may feel really bad for what he's done and that's why he's not calling you... If you still want to be with him then try to work things out. It's hard to be cheated on and you'll probably have a lot of trouble trusting him again, but you can always give someone another chance.





if he blows it again, then it's his loss because you are awesome, remember that.
well i hate to say it but you may have to take it step by step once more date after date sadly but sometime you cant solve it by falling in love all over again this maybe a time to take the exit sadly it might also mean u need to give him a little more social attention


chelsea hope this helps in your time of pain
That's horrible, and I always feel for those who have to experience the pain it's caused. I honestly thing a divorce is best, and taking half of his belongings. Talk to your sons, if htey don't want to talk then that's just the way it is, forcing it on them isn't going to work. it just needs to let itself unravel. happened to my friends aunt. she's doing a lot better now.
You need to get confirmation that he actually cheated on you. Maybe he was in the process of cheating but didn't actually do it. Either way he doesn't sound trustworthy but it would be in your best interest to have proof. Marriage is a legal agreement and cheating is grounds for a divorce.
This is the appropriate time to take half his belongings.
that's terrible. go to the place your husband is staying at and talk to him. or go to the place the girl hes cheating on is at, and talk to her. don't yell at her, just be like please i really need to talk to my husband, can you get him to meet me? im really sorry about whats going on. and i know you probably don't want to do this, but I think you should get a divorce. or at least counseling
I wouldn't put up with that. I have cero tolerance for infidelity. Maybe a very drunken one night stand, maybe then I could find it in my heart to forgive, but he keeps on lying, he has shown no remorse at all. You should have respect for yourself and not put up with that. I'd rather be alone, traveling and doing my life than crying myself to sleep every night wondering if he cheated today, and if he will do it again tomorrow. That's no way to live.





As for your step children, I don't know what their ages are, but children do that all the time. Then, when they figure the grass isn't greener on the other side, they change their mind. Why nto take advantage of the time you have by yourself to go to counseling? You need to learn to deal with this, not evade it, and you also need to get that self esteem up.





The best of luck.
His cheating isn't about you. It's about him. He is acting like a teenager, and that's HIS cross to bear. You need to pick yourself up and not accept any of his excuses right now. None of them make sense. The only thing that makes sense is that he can't be a loyal husband for you. Whether that's medication, or weakness, or depression or whatever isn't your issue. If he were committed, he'd find a way to figurt this out and get help. But, no.





It's hard, but in time you'll see that there was nothing you could have done. This was his life and his choice. Take care.
Move out.


Then talk with him. If he wants back together, get counseling first. Then start dating each other again, then decide if you can trust his lying you know what again.
Hurting is part of this, time will take care of that, how much depends on your ability to forgive him. Sounds nuts I know, I would not suggest that you take him back or kick him to the curb, its your decision and your life but one way or another you need to forgive him and start your life again.





This is what I used when my wife of 25 years did the same.





';Ive made mistakes in my life, I've let people take advantage of me, and I have accepted way less than I deserve. But I have learned from my bad choices and even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never be sorry, I'll know better next time and I wont settle for any less than I deserve.';





This has helped me get back into life, tell my ex wife that I dont want her back and I feel important again. I wish you all the strength it takes to make a decision that gives you what you deserve.
file for divorce, he will get the message. from the way you type, you sound like you're a strong lady who is able to leave the marriage emotionally and financially. he has cheated on you because he's weak and horny. he didn't tell you why he has cheated. you were a good wife/step mother and you didn't deserve that. now if he cheated on you because he has made an effort to work on your marriage and you didn't reciprocate the effort, and he was desperate, hurting, and lonely in his marrage, then yeah maybe it would be an eye opener and it would give you a reason to stay and work things out.