You should never stay in a relationship with someone for the kids and I'll tell you why.. your kids will never be happy in life if their parents arent. Kids are very perceptive, they notice the difference between fake happiness and true happiness. You and your kids will be much happier if you take yourself out of any situation causing you any sort of pain or unhappiness. If you are truly looking out for the best interest of your children, you will do what makes their mother happy, which in turn will make them happy. Kids really do respond to their parents and how they feel, and they do know what is happening around them regardless of how you try to mask the truth. You can still maintain a father/children and mother/children relationship for your kids, and as long as they have someone to love them and be there for them (and you have to be in your best condition to do that the most you can) that is what truly matters here.How to deal with a cheating husband?
Does he want to divorce?
Is he still cheating or does he want to try and rebuild your lives together?
What is in the best interest of your children?
If one of them were in your position what would you advise or help them do?
I'd need more info, was it a one time thing and he's really sorry or is he a serial cheater?
The first you can work with and maybe repair the relationship. The second, there's no hope so if you can't leave then you have to deal with it and never have unprotected sex with him again.
Sounds like a very unhappy place to be so maybe it would be better to leave?
My parents were together for TWENTY YEARS! And from their 15 year marriage came three kids. I am the oldest. Take it from me, if your husband is cheating on you, and your kids are involved, you should really talk to your kids about how they feel. Its not that you can't leave. Its that you are probably too attached and afraid to leave the love of your life. If he is cheating on you, like my dad did to my mom, maybe you guys are better off divorced and friends. Dealing with a cheating spouse is a punishment in itself. Divorce is very traumatizing, especially for children. No kid wants to see their parents split apart, no matter how bad family life is. But in the long run, things are so much more better. Believe me.
He is so not even worth you wasting your life on. If you leave your husband, you will be free to do what you want. It might have a negative effect on your children now, but when they are old enough to understand, it will be for the better.
PLEASE, if you think you are suffering because your husband is cheating, imagine how your kids will/or do feel knowing their dad is fooling around on mom.
Make the right decision. Not only for the sake of your marriage, but for the sanity of your kids.
Oh yes! Cheating is grounds for divorce. The children are going to leave you and you will really be alone. They do not care they know adults are crazy.
I hope your husband can afford to pay for his mistake. You can talk to your husband about your plans to leave him. You can get family counselor.
Cheating if you can forgive him, he probably cheating before you marry him. Ask yourself if it is worth it because your beautiful self angry because you stay with someone that does not love you and someone else will.
There is no such word as can't.
Maybe won't but not can't.
You have to do what is best for you. If you aren't happy then your kids won't be happy.
get the locks changed while he is out and pack all his stuff and leave it out there, period. my friend's friend stayed with her cheating husband, and he gave her aids.
of course you can leave... Can't is a cop out!
Do you ahve a job? If no... get one. Do you believe he will stop cheating if you get him to counselling?
THINK about what's best for your kids. A cheating rata$$moron dad who cheats on their mom, or a mom who knows how to be a strong independent woman who can carry things forward.
it's a choice.
You make HIM leave. Get evidence, and use it in court. He will have to pay you a bunch of money.
NEVER put up with a cheater---they never change!!
why do you think it is ok to stay with someone who cheats on you and your family. just because he is the father of your kids doesnt give hmi the right to break your wedding vows, he is hurting you and thats not ok, if he did it once he will do it again, and then what? what is he showing his son( if you have one), he is showing him that it is ok to cheat on the person you claim to love. what is he showing hisdaughter(if he has one) it is ok to accpet the fact that your boyfriend/hubby will cheat on your and you are not worth being faithful to. so you sticking with this guy is affecting your kids, yes they are young and dont know whats going on around them, but guess what, they do know and can feel whats going on. they can sense thingsthat happen and see your reaction and hear you arguing. they know. if you are thinking about not leaving him think again, not for yourself but for those kids. heres what you need to do. leave him go to a shelter or a family memebers house. get on your feet, with your job it wont be enough to support the kids( i hope yo uare working) then get on welfare for a while(thats what it is for to help you when you are in need) then get him for child support and you will be set, the kids will be free of his eveil ways and you can raise them the way you want. also you can start over and find a good man that will treat you like a queen, treat you like you are suppose to be treated. good luck.
If it is habitual cheating, there is no dealing with it. If it happened once, and there is sincere regret, then counseling for the both of you is a must and you should try to repair the damage. DO NOT THINK IT IS OKAY TO DO THE SAME AS PAYBACK.
You don't state how old or young your kids are. I went through divorce when my three children were all teenagers. Now they all attend college and are very well adjusted, it seems. Kids are resilient, they will adjust to a change quite well, if they know you love them. I think it is more harmful to try to keep a family together and expose the kids to a marriage that lacks genuine spousal love, than to cut your ties and divorce.
It is a grueling decision to make, but if you decide to end your marriage, don't look back. Remember, for every door that closes, another door opens!
Good luck!
you have three choices: live with it, live with it and get yourself a lover, or GET OUT AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!
He will NEVER change. Kick him to the curb.
Well, even if the kids are involved, I think you should leave. It's better to leave than to live with a husband you can't trust.
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