Violence vs cheating. whats the difference?

i know a lot of poeple find physical violence less acceptable then cheating. but if you talk to people that got cheated on, the pain is stronger than any physical pain and sure as heck doesnt heal that fast. how come a person thats physically abusive is less respectable than one thats emotionally abusive? if we all dealt with cheating as we deal with beating and society looked at it the same way, would less people dare to do it?Violence vs cheating. whats the difference?
It's been said that sometimes emotional blows hurt worse then physical ones and are harder to get over.





xxxViolence vs cheating. whats the difference?
people dont care about society!! society sucks!!


its easier to look at someones body and get ecited enough to cheat than it is to take a look at your family and decide that today is the day you're going to start beating them..


either way.. you dont get into a relationship knowing that one day you are going to cheat on or beat the crap out of that person..


the reason people dont look down on anyone who cheats is because if a person cheats there had to be a good reason behind it..(not getting enough from partner.. the attraction isnt there anymore.. the other person was too sexy to decline.. whatever the reason..) plus it's not really committing a crime.


there is never a good reason for beating a spouse or a child..
I too have dealt with both, but I personally find having multiple partners understandable, whereas I would never tolerate physical violence. However, a lot of people stay in physically abusive relationships; I suppose they find it acceptable. It really is a matter of personal perspective. You can give me a thumbs-down, but I simply don't feel that being with more than one person is as big of a deal as a lot of people are making it out to be.





P.S. Sorry, I just fail to see how my husband sleeping with another girl will take away my self-esteem or self-worth. For this to happen, my self-esteem would have to be pretty damn low to begin with.
Emotional abuse of any kind has more lasting impression than physical pain, it is true. But for those who are beaten by their companion, the pain is not only physical, it is emotional as well. The act of cheating is not the same as putting your hands on someone and making that person fear for their lives. Victims of abuse look in the mirror every day and see bruises and fractures and broken bones even if they are healed.
I will tell you my opinion.Cheating hurts the heart.Violence can be taken too far and the victim can be killed.In my opinion neither should be an option in any relationship.I always heard they beat so you will be the one to leave.I'm 51 and if I could show you what happen to me in a violent out burst,it is not funny.No woman can fend someone they love off of her,I tried.Society may not except violence as much as you think.We feel sorry and try to act like we don't see the bruises,but they are there..good question...
People deal with emotional and physical pain differently, and some can handle more of one than the other. Physical abuse can leave one disfigured, handicapped, or dead...cheating does that less often (unless an STD was shared).





Just as we (people in general) tend to take people with physical diseases and disfigurements more seriously than those with mental illness...so it goes with battering versus cheating. Physical abuse can be seen, emotional abuse typically can't (thus we don't know what that person is dealing with inside).





Whether or not one is worse than the other, is for those who've been through both to decide. Not everyone will agree...
I think it is because physical pain can heal....bruises and broken bones go away.....but emotional pain never goes away...It is stuck there in deep in your mind and difficult if not impossible to forget.
it doesn't matter what one it is it takes time to heal cheating or violence the same so let the ___ hole go and find some that care there are still out there some where
Physical abuse can lead to permanent damage. Broken bones, loss of sight or hearing, and even death. The emotional pain does last a long time when you are cheated on but it does heal. Huge differences between these two.
I don't think there would be less people doing it. To me both things are just as unacceptable. These are the two things that would make me divorce my husband immediately!
that's a good question....i'm not sure, maybe? all depends on the different views and all from everyone in society....
People can see the physical abuse, metal abuse is not always easy to see or understand.





Both are abuse, and no one should be in any relationship that's abusive in anyway.
I can't see how the pain of being cheated on can outweigh being literally beaten to death. Or beaten to the point where one's only alternative is to kill the person beating on them. Obviously you've never been there.
I take it you have never been physically abused!


I'm sorry, but your WRONG! Physical abuse lasts a life time! Cheating causes pain, but once you move on to another relationship and are happy, those cheating memories fade........abuse NEVER DOES!! NEVER!





Hope to god you NEVER havew to experience it.
physical pain may go away as time goes by





emotional wise takes much longer to ease, especially we all have memory to carry with us till the CPU died





in a marriage or relationship, no difference between the 2 cos they both kill and end it
Well...it's the 'cheating' that usually LEADS to violence !!


(especially when they still had daily-flogging for the bytches)
i know what u mean i've been on the end of both,they break your heart and haunt you.they both take away your self -esteem;trust;self-worth;the things that make you u inside.they make us victims.society,hates and loves victims,but never really knows how to treat them, how can it add to the list then.?we punish lesser criminals in prisons becauses laws need change,so many laws need addressed.make a diff. Write the letter u wrote make copies of it and send it to everyone in congress. open some eyes. good luck sorry for your pain.
Good point!!!





I really don't know that there is one single answer to that though but it definitely makes you think!





I never really thought to compare the two but how you put it Does make sense and i do believe if we looked at cheating in the same ';No Tolerance'; way as we look at domestic violence than yes i believe there would be less cheating going on. (Hopefully)
you know what I've been part of a relationship that had both things in it..it's true that cheating leads to violence if the relationship is not ended right away, but its not true that physical abuse gets healed faster than emotional abuse i feel that, that experience has affected my present relationship in allot of ways i am afraid to confront him when something is bothering me and if we get in an argument i start crying just feeling like its gonna lead to beating...but to answer your question ...in my perspective i see both cheating and abusive partners with the same disgust.