If you know for certain that he has someone on the side, tell him that his being honest with you now will make the difference in your relationship and see if he comes clean.
If he is not honest then you know where this is going to go. Get out before you add years to your heartache and waste time on someone who isn't worth it.
But if he tells the truth and is repentant maybe try counseling to work it out if you're willing.
Personally, I would just go straight to the leaving part.
How to deal with cheating?
whether he admits it or not, you are most likely right. whatever the case, this does not seem like a healthy relationship.
it sounds like you have come a long way, and it will be hard to do, but believe me on this because i went through the same thing. didn't find out HOW MANY people he had been cheating on me with until a while after we were already done.
and people won't change just because their marital status changes. even if he leaves this current woman, you can be pretty sure there will be another one down the road.
just think, is this really the type of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? if you let him ';get away'; with this you will resent him, there is no way you can forget.
in the end though, its your own choice and you need to do what you think is best. just do what makes you happiest in the long run.
From your question, it does not sound like you will easily forget or are happy with him cheating. And rest-assured he will continue the pattern into the marriage.
It depends why you want to be married to him. If it is purely financial and you feel you need to, then you have to accept his infidelity. If you have a choice and can find someone else then, personally, I would do that. Neither of you will be 'destroyed'. In time you will both move on.
just leave him at least you have the right to do now.cos if you marry him you can live the life of a marriage that can lead also to divorce.
believe me ive been there .my husband is also a serial cheater but i married him but i divorce him cos he didn't change.
he will not change if you think you can change him.even if we had 2 daughters he keep on cheating.
its very painful now but you still can move on and find the right one in the future.
lucky you have the time to change things better for yourself and for your future.
well I don't think yo should hide yur feelings, be upfront, if he is, you should have some time out and play hard to get... if he a smuck, then moove on.... or you could end up really hurt!!! don't be played!
when a man cheats on u before marriage, getting married will not stop the betrayal. if u know there is someone else now, its a glimpse into your future.he won't quit seeing her because he is married.
do you have proof ( feelings not considered) that he is having an affair wt another woman? if so, then drop him.
you dont deal with cheating
you leave
WHats wrong with cheating you're the one he is with whats the issue?
I'm a cheater for over 23 years so listen up. I have the experience to inform people about this horrible disease.
When a Man has other ladies in his mind before marriage that is what I call a ';Block';, which means: To adhere or retort to whom ever sets that path in Lieu of their current relationship.
It can be you or the woman he or she is having conversation with at this point, I will leave the affair out of it for right now.
Once your significant other has touched another woman, or kissed another woman directly proportional to his mental thought of sex with her or him...then it's all over for you.
I call this a disease, almost a silent killer of marriages and singles that date.
Girls are so comfortable and sweet when they are young and easy targets in College and fresh out of High School, while ladies already divorced learned some ropes and become harder targets and those who are separated become instant targets for affairs against their own will for the simple fact we all have what is called (adrenaline) this is released during excitement and that is the spark, like a rocket getting ready for lift off smoking on the launch pad and if a woman at a bar giggles and touches a man that is going thru a hard time in his marriage he already is smoking and then she kisses him and slips him a soft tongue in the process...and honey we have lift off.
That is how fast for an affair to take place. Don't always blame the Man. I've known women that know the Men are married and will make love with them regardless.
The Beaches are full of them, male and female.
The only person that can stop it is him or her whichever the case.
There is nothing you can do to stop yours from doing it. Absolutely nothing.
It's all up to him, so don't even bother talking to him about it because it will do no good.
Once you suspect that he has considered or doing it already...your future marriage is doomed.
Mark my words%26gt;%26gt; On this day of October 19, 2008,...If you get married to this guy after you have been informed that he is or might cheat, don't forget AL Rozz told you so.
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