Friday, August 20, 2010

How do deal w/being cheated on & told he does not care about u as much as u care about him?And the lonelyness.

I was with this guy for 5 years and now he tells me he just does not care about me as much as I do him. Then breaks up and comes back a couple days later. On and off for 5 years. Why does he keep coming back, if he does not want to be with me?How do deal w/being cheated on %26amp; told he does not care about u as much as u care about him?And the lonelyness.
1. Because you let him


2. Because everyone and anyone unable to make a commitment needs a Jerk in Reserve


3. Because the last one he was cheating on you with has dumped him


4. He doesn't care for you... he cares for a warm place to put his penis.





Are these enough, or do you need more?How do deal w/being cheated on %26amp; told he does not care about u as much as u care about him?And the lonelyness.
If you really want to be with him, sit him down and explain that you need a solid commitment from him.





If not, move on.
You are comfortable, familiar, and willing to take him back. Make yourself unavailable to him. He knows he can have you anytime he wants and without the commitment now. So, go out, try to have fun, or at least make it seem like you are having the time of your life. If he thinks he is losing you, it'll wake him up. In the mean time, hopefully he will hurt a little like you have been hurting.
he keeps coming back because he knows you will let him back in. i don't mean to sound harsh but you need some backbone. if this guy doesn't care for you don't accept him back because you will only get hurt again when he leaves. let him know exactly how you feel without going into total rant mode. once you tell him that it is over you can begin to move on. once again i will make this clear he doesn't love or care much about you if he keeps up with this behavior. even if he swears he does he is lying to you. once you oust him for good you will need support to get over the loneliness. if you have been neglecting your friends for that relationship i suggest you get back intouch with them. and if you have strong bonds with family they can help with those lonely times too.


another point is to rebuild your self esteem. you may be wondering what you have done that makes him not want you. a mind set like that can really kill self esteem points. you shouldn't worry about insecurities that he may have had about you. you have to find that wonderful person that you buried beneath all of his decietfullness 5 years ago. then once you are ready to head back into the dating world you won't have to worry about petty things and you can have fun with it without stressing out.





all you need is to get him out of your life and pay special attention to your needs. then your self esteem and confidence level will rise.





p.s...it hurts for a while but never for long!!!
He is toying with you. What I need you to do is send him packing, drop this man. He means you nothing but mental anguish. He is playing with your mind and laughing at you. The next time he calls you, I will need you to hang up in his face. When he comes over to your home, I need you to not open the door at all. Do not listen to him, drop this scum bucket and move on to a real man.
Ditch him!!! You don't need his attitude! If he keeps coming back just tell him off. Also get a makeover, start dating and looking for someone new and someone who can make a commitment!
probably cause he doesn't have anyone else, or if your having sex that might be why. i would not see him ever again, as he is leading you on.he is cruel to tell you that after 5 yrs.
tell him that your tired of this and he has to make a choice


her or me and if he says her. then you need to go on with your life. u only live one time dont waste your time if he comes to u tell him that he has to make a choice first before he can see u again then hopefully he will see that your not playing games


good luck to u and god bless.
He is a loser and he keeps coming back because you are a sure ';piece of ***';. He can have sex with you when he gets horny, no strings attached.Thats why.
He keeps coming back because YOU LET HIM!! Grow some respect for yourself, honey. I was in the same situation with an idiot like that, only I was the idiot who LET MYSELF be treated so bad. It may be hard at first, but you can do it. Wouldn't you RATHER BE SINGLE THAN TO WISH YOU WERE because hes treating you so bad? You CAN DO IT. Tell him not to let the door hit him in the @ss when he leaves, and that it only swings ONE WAY.
he is playing the game. Your always there so when it doesn't work with some other woman he goes back to you. When he finds another your out again. You need to boot him permanently. The cheating should of been enough for you to give him his walking papers.
hummmmmm..... because you allowed your self to be used and he knows good and well that you stupid enough to take his sorry butt back with out any commit and i am sure when he does come and stay thing happen so why even settle down when he can do what he wants and leaves how does the saying go why buy the cow......do a lock down no more let it go you can do better
you seem to really like this guy, and maybe thats why he keeps coming back, because he knows he can get away with it, i think you need to put a full stop to letting him back, be confident and give him an ultimatum!!! good luck x
This man is playing games with you, using you because he knows you will welcome him back. When he comes the next time, keep the door firmly shut. There will be someone worthy of your love, take time and they will come to you. Get rid of this rat now
he keeps coming back because he knows how you feel about him and how pressed you are. pick your head up off the pillow, fix yourself up, have a ME day and leave this LOSER alone he means you no good. stop carrying your feelings on your sleeve and move on. he was honest and real to you when left. STOP allow him to walk all over you. you are missing out on your real shining armor man. stop wasting time, feelings, tears and thoughts on this guy. find a pt job, hangout with some friends, family, babysit. find some activities that will occupy your mind and thoughts. GodBless

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