I realize marriage is not 100% sex but it has to be at least 85%.
Otherwise it would not be such a big deal to cheat.
Well women (and dudes) what do you think?So if marriage isn't all about sex, how come when people cheat it usually ends in divorce?
A divorce caused by cheating is more about trust and less about sex.So if marriage isn't all about sex, how come when people cheat it usually ends in divorce?
And if she wants to, she can join in on the action. Hotties!
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Sure, it would be cool...if your wife still trusts you afterward.
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women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.
well i think that from a religious stand point that when someone commits adultry that's when they get a divorce. when you cheat it's like you are pursuing another like your wife/husband is not good enough for you...you need more.
Umm, Well that is a big trust factor. When you break that trust it will hurt your partner terribly. If they can't gain that trust back then it will end in divorce.
Sex is absolutely a fundamental aspect of marriage. That is precisely why the marriage falls apart when there is extramarital sex. But, the extramarital sex represents other failures. It is a betrayal of trust, friendship, confidence, etc. It is the underlying causes of the affair that make the marriage fall apart. The extramarital sex is merely the manifestation of those problems.
Cheating is not all about sex. When you devote and dedicate your time to someone else that is breaking the vow you made. Think about it would you want your wife to hang out with someone else and treat you like you don't exist?
Honey you are so wrong!
Betrayal is a hell of a thing.
When you love someone and they betrayed you then you would know what it feels like. Its nothing about sex its about sharing that part of you that you swore to only give to that person you will really feel the pain. Cherishing the love that you guys share and you are trying to make a marriage work and something like that happens over sex! Man it really hurts.
Marriage is not only about sex it is about companionship. A lot of people think that marriage is to have sex freely but actually marriage is not what it is cracked up to be it is hard work because you have to make it sail and some people just try stopping off short. So hear what get married and you'll see yourself what marriage could be. Its mostly fun but its hard at times but the fun times always over shadow the bad ones.
Ensure that the person who marries you cherishes you...
Marriage is about commitment and trust. If a spouse cheats they have broken that bond of trust.
Just by the way you are talking you are one of two things...1) young and have never been married or 2) someone that got caught got with their hand in the proverbial cookie jar. Either way if you were a mature adult you would know that marriage is NOT about sex. It is a deep and binding faith in another person. It is knowing that someone is there for you, loves you completely (faults and all) and would do nothing to hurt you.
If their is something wrong in a marriage that is leading a person to want to cheat then they should have enough love for their partner to COMMUNICATE with them.
Sex is important, BUT marriage is based on honesty, trust, commitment and love. By having an affair you have thrown honesty, trust and commitment out the window completely. You have also caused your spouse to question your love for them, and rightly so. If you feel the selfish need to ';have fun on the side with another woman'; why would you bother to get married in the first place?
You've posted several questions on this same vein, so I'm guessing you're looking for validation that you're right. You may want to skip this one.
A ';good'; marriage isn't all about sex. A ';good'; marriage is more than the physical, because, reality time, sex doesn't stay the same for the life span of a marriage. There are times when work, children, your health, and age, can come into play and make sex the furtherest thing from your mind. Well, maybe it's on your mind, but it's not going anywhere else.
Cheating on your spouse can potentially cost you the marriage. Cheating implies that you are not committed to the marriage, or that you are not worthy of being entrusted with the other person's dreams, and hopes. Lying can be just as detrimental to the marriage. How do you trust someone who would lie to you? Especially, to use one of your other posts, lie about something major like the purchase of a new car, or where you really were last Friday night when you said you were working late?
When you age, sex isn't even 20% of the marriage. In some cases, it's darn close to 0%. Marriages can survive that. I have a friend whose husband had prostrate cancer. There is no sex life for them anymore. They still love each other, and they are still married. Being together is what's important, having someone you can believe in and trust, someone who you know will be there for you no matter what. That's a marriage.
Because marraige is also about trust and honesty and only being with the one you are married to. Once this has been damaged there very seldom any going back.
Of course sex is all about sex... all about claiming and controlling and owning the other person's sex life.... which you really have no claim to.
Why get married if marriage isn't about sex?
Rules about fornication, adultery, etc... are all hinged upon the institution of marriage.
I don't think marriage is all about sex but it is a big part of the connection.When two people form a relationship they usually base it on trust, honesty and commitment.When a couple makes this connection they usually depend on the other to be faithful psychically and emotionally.If one of the partners in this relationship cheats on the other it breaks the bond of trust, honesty and emotional commitment. If any of these are violated the relationship will suffer because of it. So many people stray in a relationship and break the bond that held them together simple because they want sex from another person. Sex in a relationship is usually the result of the trust, honesty and emotional needs being full filled by both partners if one breaks the bond then everything is spoiled.
Because sexual cheating is also emotional cheating. If your spouse sleeps with someone else, it is like saying ';Your not good enough'; or ';I don't care enough about you to keep myself for you';. Part of the traditional marriage vows say ';forsaking all others'; that means there will an emotional and intimate relationship that is cherished between those two people only and reserved for those two people only. When you cheat, you break your marriage vows and therefore, break the bonds of marriage.
And adultery is also a sin.
Good ? but once the trust is gone, what else is left?
Spoken like someone who knows nothing about marriage or relationships.
Marriage isn't all about sex or even mostly about sex...relationships based on sex needn't go through the expense or hassle of marriage.
Cheating isn't just about sex...it's about lying, deceit, and betrayal...any one of those things is enough justification to end a relationship.
I think it's because the bond between a man and his wife is about forsaking all others. In other words; it means that this man has chosen this female above all others he's been with to love, honor, and cherish, until death do them part. Women tend to take these vows very seriously and sex is just that until a man and a woman commit themselves to each other legally; and then that's when the making love comes into place. Also, once this bond has been broken/violated it's like having your first birthday; it only happens once in a lifetime, and once it's over; it's over. The same thing occurs with infidelity, we consider what we share with our husbands as the best of the best, and feel the same way about what you give us. However, nothing cheapens that quicker than finding out that you've been sharing that with another female. It also takes away any trust, respect, and communication that may have been between the two people in the past. That my friend is my take on this matter...........
I once knew someone who worked at an AIDS hospice. She said there were several women there who had been faithful to their husbands of 30+ years, but were dying slow painful deaths because their husbands fooled around with a hooker or two.
How would you feel if your wife brought something home to you?
Think about it. You marry someone because that person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. That is the deal. Once you decide that others can be in your life (bed) you have, in a sense, breeched the contract. So no more marriage.
It is not about sex but it is about trust and respect! Understand!
i agree i think you have to have GREAT sex in your marraige to make it last forever. w/out great sex it leads to cheating!
because being married means monogamy. sex with one person, kisses with one person, etc.. when they go find pleasure or fulfillment somewhere else it is a violation of trust and that forces a breakage in the foundation of the relationship. yeah sex isnt everything but its a good deal of it.
people don't cheat just to have sex with someone else, they do it because they're just mean or unhappy in their married life..they could be stressed, drunk, upset, or going through a mid life crisis
Seems to me that you are very confused. The cheating is not all about sex either. When you cheat, you break your word. You swore that you would HONOR AND CHERISH YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND, THROUGH SICKNESS AND THROUGH HEALTH, FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, UNTIL DEATH DID YOU PART. As you say, sex is an important part of marriage but honor, loyalty, love, and HONESTY are more important. How can you trust someone that lies on your wedding day?
marriage is about trust and cheating is about betrayal. you break that trust, you're done, whether it's by cheating or not.
I think that you are right to a point but I also think that people grow apart and rather than work on it they go else where.
Of course. the whole Idea of marriage is a pair bond between couples which states __ you are my life mate__ meaning, sex partner, basically.
People on this site are many times young, never married people, FAR more people STAY together after infidelity than you ever know.
Believe me.....It's WAY more common than anyone thinks.
Infidelity is actually not the biggest cause of divorce, not being able to work out your problems is. A marriage can weather any storm who is able to work it out and be happy regardless of the transgression.
Are even freaking married?
Your right, marriage is about love, trust and faith. When you give yourself to someone else, you've broken trust and faith.
Love - what's it to you?
Cheating is not about sex. It's about betrayal of the basic vow of marriage. It is about not being trustworthy in any way. It is not 'fun on the side' - it is betraying the essential vow of monogamy in a marriage. You get married and agree to stay with one person. You break that promise, what ELSE do you consider negotiable?
I don't think marraige is 85% sex. Marraige is much more than that. Yes, sex is very important in a relationship, and without it, I think the marraige will end. But more than having a sex partner, your partner also has to be your best friend.
But I think cheating ends marraiges because it is betrayal. When someone cheats, they are saying I need more than JUST you. When you get married, you are devoting yourself to that person, and yes, this means in everyway, including sexually.
If you want to be in a relationship, but still cheat, then Marriage is NOT for you.
Blaze! I stand a better chance of winning the Lottery. Than you finding a Good Woman, with that attitude. But I do wish you Good Luck, anyway.
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