I KNOW hes screwing around through multiple signs (the biggest two being the condoms I found in his glove compartment and his conversations on plentyoffish.com with a girl who hes unaware is one of my friends. Although I know revenge is petty and blah blah blah I NEED to come out on top here. Ive taken the highroad before and frankly, I don't like it. Im sick of being the ';victim';. And Im crazy pissed cuz he knows the situation with my ex and was there to let me cry on his shoulder the whole time. He constantly goes on about what a jerk my daughters father is. Then he does the same thing?! It makes it that much worse that he would do this to me knowing what Ive been through in the past.
How can I get back at him? How can I come out of this as the ';victor'; (lol, as if there is really a ';winner'; in this situation). What would you do?How to deal with cheating?
do nothing but move on without a word and show that your happy with life, and u will have come out on top.How to deal with cheating?
Anyone who has truely been cheated on would never want to cause that pain and hurt to another.....cheaters are just plain selfish and always have an excuse which usually revolves around what you are not doing right. Just send him packing and find out why you are attracted to guys with the personality that cheat...perhaps you are always being rescued?
I would print out the letters on plenty off fish and put it with a packet of condoms with his belongings out side the door.he will get the point. You don't need this in your life.You do however need to get a life.get some training or get a job that puts you around a better class of people.You need to be respected by boyfriends that want you, for you not dead beets Good luck
Perhaps you're attracted by the wrong types. Not all men are pigs. It does seem that you may rush into relationships too quickly by giving too much of yourself. Even employment has a 30 to 90 day trial period. Perhaps rather than retaliation, you should consider a change in your thinking when you get into your next relationship. Best Wishes in making stronger choices for YOU! 鈾モ櫏
porn and plentyoffish did it for my husband he ended up [well temporaily] with a baracuda, move along, forget him, he has no love nor respect for you.
Have your ';friend'; set up a meeting and you show up with her? Who cares, revenge will not change the fact you need to dump him and move on.
well sorry with the bad luck with men,maybe your turn will come,not all men are pigs..but alot are...do not give up on love.if you are a good person,good things will come your way..be strong
Not all men cheat . Not all men are pigs ..... it's you not them . Act like an adult and stop with the revenge fantasies.
wow. it sounds like you've had it really rough. No all men are not pigs, but it sounds like you've somehow ended up with a lot of *******. I would say, print out the plenty of fish comments, take out the condoms and put them on the table. confront him directly(as long as you are 100% sure) make him feel horrible. Tell him that you've been cheated on before, and that he is just as bad as the previous ones you cried about. I'd say the best way is just try and make him feel as bad as humanly possible for putting you through this again. Hope this helped
You already have 2 children by 2 different men. Jeez, slow down. Now you have a new boyfriend...hopefully you won't have another baby for this one.
Instead of getting with another man, why don't you try being with yourself for a while and working on you. Solidify yourself...further your education...build a life for you and your children, instead of going from man to man to man...none of whom are taking you seriously enough to move you from 'baby mama' status to wife, friend and mother.
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If you place it on a board, it is EVERYBODY'S business. The point is, don't have children until you are married....or you end up like you....children with different fathers. You are on the defensive because I struck a nerve. You are making bad choices in men. Wake up. As you see, a so called long term relationship is still not a marriage.
Every situation is different. Revenge will depend on your situation. I got revenge without trying. All I had to do was walk away. Cheating is only fun if you have someone to cheat on. Cheating is exciting because those people don't have to deal with the stresses of building a life together. A cheaters only concern is planning secret meetings and having fun. I walked away and that changed things for him. The ';other'; women that he was seeing didn't change their lives for him. He was from out of state. When things didn't work out he couldn't afford to live in CA by himself and he had to move out of state. He's been gone for almost a month and there hasn't been a day that I didn't receive a call from him.....begging to come back. It was a real eye opener for him. He whines......there were no other women who loved me or I would still be in CA. He leaves these messages and I smile with sweet revenge. The stress from the situation caused me to lose 48 lbs in two month. I look fab....feel fab.....and got rid of my pain in the .....(ha...) Revenge without trying.....doesn't get much better than that. Think about your situation. Sometimes walking away and being fabulous makes you come out on top. By the way....the other women he was seeing.....they look like hell. It's very obvious that my decision to get rid of him had a definite impact on their ';good time.'; Now, I'm lmao everyday. The cheating game isn't fun unless all of the players are present. Revenge can be as simple as taking the most valuable player out of the game.
hey well first i have to say that not all men are the same....
i've been threw something like this.
i got together with my boyfriend backo on 2005 we were together everythingwas working out just fine...wen my mom got sick i decided to go bak to nevada for a month he wasnt ok with it but he didnt say nothing so we keeped in touch for like a week or two wen i was gonna go bak to cali....a month later i found him with another girl i got home and all his stuff were gone i was very angry.sad. i felt stupid helpless and ooooo it was crazy days later the girl he left me called me tellng me to back away from him cuz he didnt wan tto know anything abotu me.....till this day i wonder y he did it and why didnt he just tell me why could he step up and be a man it hurts but
what u have to do is forget the passed remember tha good times u guys had..........and u will find the right guy that will love u and cherish u for wat u are...dont get back at him he was stupid and dumb to let u go.... let life deal with them wat goes around comes around
That's messed up.. he would do that... And he's talking to your friend on myspace... was that set up by you or did it just work out that way? ....in either way, I would use that to confront him about it.... ask him why he would give you a shoulder to cry on, then turn around and do the same thing? what.. was that a tact to keep you stupid and naive or something? I don't know much on what you can do to keep the relationship...He's obviously looking for someone else, or just wants something on the side... you have to talk to him and see what he says, then YOU need to decide what your willing to put up with ... Good luck hun.. sorry.. life is shitty I just think most men cheat b/c they get bored and maybe the grass looks greener on the other side who knows
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