How do you get over and ex when you have a child with that person?

Me and my daughter's father were together for seven yrs.I had been with him all my adult life and was devastated when two months ago he choose to leave the relationship.Things have not been right for a long time and I have dealt with cheating and disrespect but I still was hoping that we could make things work because I truly do love him even though he doesn't deserve that love. My problem is that after two months I do not feel any better.I still think about him every single day and I still feel so depressed and miserable.I barely go out and my only friend is tired of hearing me talk about him. When he comes to pick up his daughter he usually wants to just grab her and go but i sometimes try to prolong the visit and try to make conversation but it seems forced on his part and sometimes I will call him and tell him that our daughter wants to talk to him when really its just so i could hear his voice and see what is up. It's to the point where I am truly wondering if I need some kind of psychologist because I feel like I am truly obsessed.I think he is seeing someone else lately and I want so badly for that not to be true.I'm not sure what I will do if i found out he moved on to someone else or if he ends up marrying and making a family with someone else it just hurts so bad to even think about. I am a single mother and I am also a stay at home mom so i feel like maybe that has a lot to do with the situation maybe I have to much alone time to think about him.I have tried going out with my friend and 9 times out of 10 I am still thinking about him even when i am supposed to be having fun.Any advice from anyone who has been through something similar it would be very helpful.


Thank you in advance!How do you get over and ex when you have a child with that person?
well maria,





you dug yourself into a rut, Now you need to take a deep breath. You have a man who cheated on you. You will need to file child support on the guy. I am sorry that you are a stay home mom. Just to let you know, you made the choice, the consequences are the choices he had done. He bolted out on your relationship because of some difficult reasons. You will need to file child support on him.How do you get over and ex when you have a child with that person?
well i think your behavior is totally understandable. you were with him for 7 years so its going to take you a lot longer than 2 months to get over his sudden departure. i think it would be a good idea to talk to a counselor and delve into the issues that this relationship has left. a few sessions with a counselor may give you the outlet you need to get over this guy.





i went through the same thing with my daughter's father. i wasn't obsessed with talking to him though, but I did think about our relationship a lot after we broke up...i kept analyzing what went wrong and why he left, but after a few months I got over it and realized that he probably did me a favor by leaving. and i'm totally glad that i'm not with him anymore b/c he is a terrible person and rarely calls to check on his daughter much less sees her.





it feels like the world is crashing around you but soon the fog will lift and you will be able to move on with your life. its perfectly okay to grieve for something that you lost...you're entitled to that, but just don't forget about the little girl that you have to take care of. grieve for the lost relationship and then pick up and move on.
think of all the times he hurt you, how bad did that make you feel?dont you think you deserve better? yes you love him and you probably will always hold a candle for him, you created life together, BUT THATS IT!!! i know its hard but you need to try to stop thinking about it and him, he hurt you when you were together and he still has the power to hurt you now, yes he is probably seeing someone else, maybe it'll last, maybe it wont, but one things for sure if you two do get back together the relationship wont be the same. think of yourself and your daughter, you need to be by yourself right now and for a while to come, dont try jumping into another relationship that wont work, give yourself time to appreciate what you had (however good or bad that was), and what you hope to expect from someone in the future,


you are strong and you deserve better than what this guy did to you, he cheated on you and treated you with little respect, and i'm sorry to sound harsh but you let him treat you that way, all because you love him??


good way to get over him is to feel angry, that should stop all that i love him, i want him back,


cuz if he comes back he'll treat you worse and ultimatly make you feel worthless!!


you deserve better keep telling yourself that!!!!


good luck