How do you move forward after dealing with a cheating spouse?

We seperated for 1 1/2 years than joined together again, at his request. We didn't seperate originally due to cheating but when I returned home he was still seeing other women. We were actually on the verge of divorce during the seperation and I knew he was seeing other people. What I didn't know is that he didn't stop seeing them when we got back together. I've forgiven him but it's really hard to trust him. He thinks I should just get over it NOW. It's not easy. I try not bringing it up but even that is hard. I need help to move on because everything else has improved in our marriage and I love him with all my heart.How do you move forward after dealing with a cheating spouse?
First of all is he still seeing other people? If not then you need to try to go to marriage counseling. Thing is if you are still holding a grudge against him after a year and a half then you most likely never get over it. You will always have that feeling that he is out there with someone else and you can't live with that type of stress. Therefore it maybe in the best interest of you and him both for y'all to move on and go your separate ways. If there are kids involved just make sure they know it isn't their fault but that you two just couldn't make things work and it was better for them if you separated than to stay together and them see you fight all the time.How do you move forward after dealing with a cheating spouse?
For one thing, get him checked for diseases. And as others said, you need to get counseling. If he refuses to go, realize he does not care about your feelings, then decide what to do from there.
Do not date anyone until you have fully healed. The only way to heal is to allow time to pass. Believe me, it will be okay.


Someone once told me that there are actullay people on this earth who are unable to love.


You are able to love, that's a good thing, because GOD is love.
Both of you should go to a marriage councillor, it could only help.
i think taking him back was a big mistake. he's a dirty dog. if he really loved you he would of never cheated on you to begin with.if he isnt already, he will do it again, take my word for it. he doesnt love or care about you, he's only stringing you along and you know it deep down in your heart. dont you? real love doesnt lie and cheat. you know you cant live like this for the rest of your life, can you? you need to get out and start over fresh with someone who will really love you and only you.
Wow. That's a tough one. Have you asked him WHY he asked you to come back and continued to see other women? How long after you came back did this go on? Since you still love him so much and want things to work out, I would talk to him about your feelings. If he loves you as much as you love him, he should understand how hard this is for you. Tell him you are trying to put it behind you, but you need to understand WHY this happened. It will take awhile for him to regain your trust. If he doesn't see it that way, I would take that to mean he doesn't really care about your feelings. Does that sound like a man worthy of your love?
YOU CAN'T JUST FORGET BUT YOU CAN FORGIVE. IT'S GOING TO TAKE A LOT OF TIME. ALL THE THINGS THAT YOU LOVE ABOUT HIM ARE JUST ROPES THAT YOU'RE HOLDING ON TO, BUT THE CHEATING PART IS WHAT'S GOING TO ALWAYS STAY IN YOUR HEART. YOU WILL FEEL YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM ANYMORE. YOU CAN TRY BUT THERE WILL STILL BE DOUBT. TRY SOME MARRIAGE COUNSELING AND SEE IF IT HELPS. EVEN THOUGH YOU TRY EVERYTHING, HIM CHEATING IS CONSTANTLY GOING TO BE A QUESTION THAT YOU BRING UP AS IN TO WHY? WAS I ENOUGH FOR YOU? DID I HAVE ALL THE QUALITIES YOU WANT IN A WOMAN? AND WILL HE CHEAT ON ME AGAIN?
Forgive him and move on or forgive him and move on.If you are for sure you're not emotionally safe,leave him behind.Make a new life,one with less pain.
Seek counseling...and I think he needs to let you talk things out and he needs to be part of that.....but once you get it out and discuss it, don't bring it up...bringing up the past is a good killer for a relationship..you have to let it go....and move forward....good luck
I'm so sorry you had to endure this heartache. I applaud you for trying so hard to make your marriage work. God promises to give us strength and grace but only for each day. It is easy to forgive someone for wrong, but the forgetting takes time (that may never happen). It's so hard to trust anyone these days. Take one day at a time. Tell him you need time and that you want to trust him but he didn't make it very easy for you.
To move on...You have to forget the past or at least put it in a place that won't bother you. If he messes up again .....Kick him out .
There is always going to be a thought in yuor mind that say if he did why cant i. YOu will hold him responsible for his entire life. You will accuse him for this for every bad things he has ever done. His life is doomed so is your so contact me and cheat on him and then you guys are equal just kidding i was being a jerk. But its hard to move on after cheating unless you get some professional help. Forgive him if you can if not leave the relationship, forgiveess is the first step and not bring this up again after its been resolved with professional help.
leave him!


he doesn't deserve ur forgiveness for cheating u so many times. he is not trustworthy at all. remember, a rat is a rat!!! it will never change.


look for professional advice, u need someone to talk to.


good luck.