Is monogamy possible?

After reading that the new york governor apologized for being caught in this prostitution scandal, it made me wonder how his wife could stand by him even when knowing he probably slept with more than a few women.


In my past relationships i have experience trust and faithfulness but it seems my marriage is the only thing i've experienced that has made me deal with cheating(i have never cheated).


It kind of bums me out to think that maybe its just something we have to deal with. What if monogamy is just not possible, and the majority can't do it, when the minority(like me) can do it.


Are there any good men who honestly can be with one woman for the rest of their lives out there?


its such a depressing thought that there are only a few.Is monogamy possible?
Indeed, there are. The problem with this culture is that so many things have become second nature, and not even really frowned upon anymore, but actually looked upon as , ';Oh, well, he is just being a man';. When did cheating and being a dead beat father, or not being a provider for your family equal being a man?! Well the man that raised me never strayed from his wife, nor did she stray from him. And to boot, he never thought of raising his children as an option; it was his responsibility, and one he cherished. Many men nowadays think that fidelity, child rearinging, and countless other things are now an Option. Well, I am here to tell you, that that is NOT how I am raising my boys and they WILL be men, in every sene of the word. And yes, there are other women out there who raised their boys to be men, who value fidelity and family, and they share your sentiments on relatonship values, so take heart, and know that the thing about being special is, it's harder to find another like you, but when you do, it will no doubt be worth the wait.Is monogamy possible?
No. Guys are hard wired to spread our seed with as many women as possible. Every man has his price, for some it might be anything on two legs with boobs, and others it would take an unusual situation.
monogamy is not possbile in this day and age. Sex is just sex and people need to get over it. You can love someone and want to spend the rest of you life with them, but have other desires that need to be tended to that your partner just might not do nor is capable to do.
I'm with the most wonderful woman in the world, and I wouldn't even begin to think about cheating on her. You only get one chance for a woman like her. Cheating is a choice. When you cheat, you cheat not only your spouse, but yourself as well. You cheat loyalty, trust, commitment, friendship, love, and for the sake of what? 15 minutes of jollies? If you're that unhappy in a marriage, get divorced and then go have fun. You owe your spouse at least that much.
It's possible for some, but not possible for others. I'm not sure why sexual fidelity is given such a priority amongst all other issues that can, and do, arise in marriage. I can think of a lot of things that would be way worse than my husband sleeping with another woman.
yes
i think so, i also havnt cheated and want a monogamous relationship, but im 21 and all the girls i meet just wanna party and be young. i think if you find that person that it can happen, but on the radio the other day like 70% of women cheat at some point in their marriage and only 25% tell their spouse
i believe so......i have a friend who told me to kill him if he ever cheated on his girlfriend......i said ok but i'll probably just beat him up instead........he's still with her.....so yeah but there's only a few good men in this world......oh yeah including me
Sadly, it doesn't seem like many people can commit to one person for the rest of their lives. Be it pressure from friends, the media, or something in human nature to want to ';spread their seed'; to as many as possible.





Though, try not to get jaded. I am lucky, because my husband is one of the few that would not cheat no matter what. I can honestly trust him with my life. I think that at this very moment, there is a special man out there for you..who is thinking the same way you are..after getting burnt time and time again.





I wish you the best!
It is entirely possible... some may argue not probable however! But I think it truly depends on each person's ability to control their inner ids.





Id: the part of the psyche, residing in the unconscious, that is the source of instinctive impulses that seek satisfaction in accordance with the pleasure principle and are modified by the ego and the superego before they are given overt expression.





Once you have matured to a level of consciousness ~ the rest is gravy! :)





Freedom of choice is one of the great things about being human, and anyone can choose to be monogamous.
I always wonder the same thing myself..
If you find out, let me know! My fiancee cheated on me, just once, and yes I know it was only once, I caught him, kicked him out at that exact moment, and watched everything fall apart. I had never been cheated on before and it about killed me. After a few months we started working on things, it has been the hardest fight I have ever tried to fight, and after a year back together after tears, yelling,, and guilt, we have I think overcome the issue. I have heard that men suffer from monogamy phobia more than women, and I have also found that forgivness is not the easiest path but sometimes the most rewarding. There is no guarantee that your significant other will not stray, a marriage certificate does not have any fine print about infidelities sadly it is a truth in our generations, it's just what you do after that counts.
I love sex, but I am a strong believer in monogamy. I would never cheat on my wife for any reason. Especially if she would never find out. doing so i would really be cheating on myself.I live my life with integrity. my ex-wife by the way cheated. Losing trust ruins lives
Most definitely, it all depends on how committed you are to each other, and also on your faith in God to help you when needed.
In this ';ME'; society, I don't believe its possible anymore. Two marriages, two cheaters, i'm batting 1000. I have learned to find more time to spend with my spouse, since I have this magnet that attracts women who crave attention 24/7. I travel a lot for my job and it tends to put tension on relationships. I wish i had the answers but i don't. And even the people who claim to be wholesome and pure tend to be the best at keeping ';little secrets';.
We are all just animals. Men are designed by nature to ';sow their seed'; or procreate in order to ensure the continuation of the population. Monogamy goes against nature. HOWEVER, I believe it is possible. You have to WANT to be monogamous. Too many people just don't WANT to these days.
Yes, monogamy is possible.





But I have also found that few people seem to understand the meaning of fidelity and ';forsaking all others.';
I am blessed I have found one of the few. I hope you do also.
Is monogamy possible? Absolutely. Is it easy? Oh, hell, no! It takes work to keep a relationship going, and it's often easier to cheat than to keep one's marriage truly intimate (not to mention hot). Yes, there are good men who can be with one woman for the rest of their lives. There are even good women who can be with one man for life without trying to change him into who they really wanted. ;) But both parties have to be willing to work on it -- and this work is one that you never finish.
My husband was jealous enough over the years if anyone looked at me but it was when he hit 40 that I realised he wasnt what I thought. He was always the type you would say, no he wouldnt, whether he actually went that far or not I will never know, I just know he acted way out of line. Now I think in all honesty that anyone in the right situation would do it. Women I believe to be more loyal than men.


Let's face it a good relationship with a couple including an intimate relationship means it is less likely to happen.
its pos
Yes it's possible. Those people are the ones not making headlines.
Of course there are. Some men were raised with good morals and values. They want to do right by their spouse and would never hurt them that way. The others, well they were either not raised with those same morals or values or they had parents that were absent or very traumatic things happen in their life.





Honestly, look back 60 years ago, the divorce rate was much lower so was crime and murder. Some of us are called bible thumping vigilantes but is it a wonder we think God belongs in school? After how things seem to be turning out?
I had a very happy marriage...my husband was the ';love of my life'; and I his...it had its ups and downs, we both had issues but ultimately, we realized we were indeed, ';made for each other';





I believe in marriage...I believe in love as its foundation and nothing short of it...it isn't enough to ';like'; someone alot and marry them only because you hear your bioclock ticking as a woman...you need to believe in the power of love, its compassion and its forgiveness.





My husband always eyed the girls, it was just fine with me - then I knew he was alive!





You know when you are deeply loved - and love...that is all I can say. It is wonderful, peaceful and POSSIBLE.





Please don't think it isn't...it is.





Sincerely,





Grace
well I have heard couples that are swingers and enjoy that also....


I personally am very manogamous with my husband and I have never cheated on him or even thought about it much less
Yeah, it's possible. Don't look to the governor of New York as a good example. There are many men who are faithful. People in politics are usually power hungry and think they are above the rules. Why would someone pay for sex?
My hubby so does not believe in cheating or one night stands.. now I am not going to get up on my soap box and say that he won't change (although I hope not) because we all do. But I just can't see him ever doing that... his standards for himself is just too high.
I'm sorry to say that even my husband, whom I trusted completely, got a ******** from a hooker. That threw me for a curve. I have never cheated and always thought that if one of us would cheat, it would be me. I never expected it. I can't answer your question now. I do agree with you that monogamy is something that we've created in our society and may not exactly work out in our favor. I don't know what to believe anymore. There's gotta be a few good men out there.
My grandparents (dad’s side) have been together for 62 years.





My grandparents (mom’s side) have been together 68 years.





My fiance’s parents have been together 39 years.





My uncle and aunt have been together 30 years.





Is it possible? Yes.
Not only is monogamy possible but it isn't all that uncommon.





You only hear about the scandals and salacious gossip; never a murmur about the couple that has stayed true to each other for decades.
Yes for the millionth time.