How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse?

I BEEN WIT MY GIRL FOR TWO YEARS WE HAVE A ONE YEAR OLD DAUGHTER TOGETHER. WE HAD SEPERATED FOR A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME, WHICH OCCASSIONALLY HAPPENS BUT WE ALWAYS GET BACK TOGETHER, BUT THIS TIME SHE WENT OUT OF STATE WITH A EX FRIEND OF MINE AN HAD UNPROTECTED SEX, NOW SHE IS PREGNANT AN I DONT KNOW IF THE BABY IS MINE OR NOT. IM CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO I WANT TO LEAVE HER BUT I LOVE HER TOO MUCH, I WANT TO STAY BUT I FIND MYSELF HOUNDING HER EVERYDAY ABOUT IT. BECAUSE I ASKED HER ABOUT IT AND SHE LIED TO ME MULTIPLE TIMES, AN I FEEL BETRAYED, UNLOVED, AN LIKE OUR RELATIONSHIP MEANS NOTHIN WHAT SHOULD I DO.How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse?
If you are going to stay with her, you need to forgive her and love her. Try to get into couples counseling if you really want to make your relationship work. Since your relationship just went through a bad situation, and the fact that you have broken up before numerous times shows that your relationship has some issues that need to be dealt with.How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse?
What do you want in your future? Have a goal, make a plan, put your time and energy into making it happen. Sometimes we have more than one goal - like, ';make myself happy'; and ';do what's best for my daughter.'; Some people can multi-task and work on many goals at the same time. Other people can hardly even focus on one goal. Before you can make your dream come true, you have to have a dream. It may help to talk with your girlfriend and listen to what she has to say. Find out what she wants. What's her dream? Can you help eachother with your dreams?
run as fast as you can, get a DNA test to see who the father is, but leave and fine someone who will love you and only you. Once someone has cheated, you will never trust them again. If they come home late, work late, out with the girls, it doesn't matter, you will always wonder. Why put yourself through it, because you can't trust her. Give your love to someone who will give it back to you. You will be a better Father for your child if you are happy and in love than sad and worried all the time.Good luck
Be her bestfriend if u still love her, but go out from her life as a lover. There is million girls around can take care of u and love u more. Just try and be patience, u'll find wht is the best for u.


Gud Luck .... best rgrds.
there's nothing you can do but tell her how you truly feel. Your trapped in a love that hurts when her love for you is not as strong as your love is for her. My advice , If you want to stay with her, be nice to her, be kind and let it go. Or she will decide for you.
DIVORCE.. Cheaters will always cheat.
you two don't want the same thing in life now, you are about commitment and honesty, she is, sorry to say this, messed up. ask yourself, what you love her about? running away with your friend and have unprotected sex? lie to you multiple times? I don't see anything she is worth of loving, the reason she had a child with you is because she like to have unprotected sex, like with your friend, she doesn't care about the consequences. maybe you love her for her body, you are addicted to her sex, I don't think you love her as a person, because she is not a smart or nice lady in my opinion.
You should be with her for your doughter. Anyhow, as you love your GF, it should not be problem. Give same amount of love to her new born baby.





You know what, true love does not demand anything from oposite side. Do not try to mix sex with love. You can also have sex with her ex friend to get revange.
Whatever you do, DO NOT go on Jerry Springer. It sounds like, from what you have described, that she enjoys inflicting pain on you because you love her so much and she will just keep inflicting it and perhaps there may be certain aspects of your own behavior that drives her away. Why would she be driven to the point of doing what she is doing when you don't like if it didn't have something to do with you? It may be hard to tell the world that you are not Prince Charming. You have to admit your part in the blame-game.
Dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dump da *****!!!!!! Yo she really ****** with you man. No excuse dude this chick is bad news, scrap the forgiveness **** and move on. I know you have a daughter and all but damn she sounds like a complete immature slut that will only give you more heart ache later on. You have to do what is right she should be home with you and the kid not humping your ex-freind you do see what I am saying right?
I;m sorry this has happen to you,specially with a small daughter...It sounds to me your marriage has been rockey for a long time...You have been betrayed.unloved and your relationship is over,because your wife doesn't care about you marriage...


You can have some blood tests done to see if the unborn baby is yours...Has your wife done anything like this before???If you don't no,She may have...If you could proof your wife is unfit,you might have a chance of getting your young daughter...The saying my friend is.WANTS A CHEATER,ALWAYS A CHEATER....GOOD LUCK...


Clowmy
you deserve better, move on....
rub hot pepper on a condom while having intercourse with her
The dilemma is that you still love her. But yet you can't stop hounding her and can't trust her anymore and I don't blame you. Cheater are usually always cheaters. If you can make yourself do it, LEAVE her.
you guys sound like Jerry Springer... find someone who will respect you.
Well she doesn't think much of your relationship to have done something like that. Get a DNA test done to determine whether you are the father, but what happens from there is up to you. Will you ever trust her again? Is she even worth fighting to stay with?
There is no easy solution. You have to think of your little girl. Her mother is obviously not to interested in being a good role model for her. Do you want her to see things like that in the future? And as a dedicated father and someone who is trying to make a good family for her - you deserve a lot better than someone who cares only about herself and not about you or she wouldn't have had unprotected sex. She might as well give you gun with one bullet and tell ya good luck.
Leave her. She's a cheating, lying, selfish ******.
to me you are in a dire situation:-


first problem is your daughter-how much u luv n care for her


second is that you still luv your spouse-think of the time when she was with another man,totally forgotten you


thirdly your incomming issue- not much of affiliations though





now to cope with the first situation is the most difficult in my opinion as the same's binding you together-----decide to live with or without her





to cater for second situ----- try forgetting your spouse and eventually get rid of her as she is likely to go astray again to the next available opportunity





third is the easiest ----let new baby be with her for she knows to whom she belongs





God help you
we are on the same sinking ship. only it's my husband who is doin the stupidity. i cant let go of him same manner your not decided on how to deal w/ your girl. talk over a bottle of beer? i guess we just both have to learn why they are doin this to us. i am planning to talk things over w/ my man then probably compromise. goodluck to you and God bless
It sounds likey you are in a bad relationship. If you aren't happy together, get counseling or seperate. Your happiness might not be in each other. Good luck! oh, and get a paternity test when the baby comes.
well man u really had terrible time


i know u wont be able to face the truth that she slept with some one


just imagine how com she sleep with other guy after having baby from u


dude best suggestion from my point before she delivers her baby get the DNa report of the baby


and if its not u amke her go away from ur life


and concentrate on ur baby


thats more important than a wife who cheated u
block her out of your life for a while let her no you love her but dont call her dont see her just let her be the more you try to fiqure out her love the more she will pull away from you just leave her alone and do you for awhile she cheated and let you down forgive her and just stay by yourself for a while maybe she just aint the woman for you. Think about it man.
First of all, don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It isn't true. If this is her first time, and you both love each other,you can work through and stay together. Get counseling,talk to each other,but if you really love her and want to be with her,FORGIVE HER,AND ACCEPT THE BABY AS YOUR OWN,even if you find out different. You will have to be strong for and support each other. People really do sometimes make a poor choice or mistake. Walking away because of an argument or disagreement doesn't solve anything. You know in your heart what you want. As for her lying maybe she's affraid you will leave.No,she shouldn't lie but tell you the truth. Also you have a 1yr old daughter together to consider. Pray and do what is best for all of you. Just don't keep throwing her mistake up to her. If she loves you,she is already punishing herself more than anyone else could.
First, determine who the father of the baby is. This is extremely important. Since you already have one child together, and possibly another, it will be best to work things out and stay together, the children deserve that. Love can overcome a lot of tough situations, and if you truly love her, you will find a way to make things work out. Counseling can be a big help if you find yourself lost.





In your last sentence, you say you feel betrayed, unloved, etc. Please realize that those feelings are something you control. See if you can overcome those negative feelings and turn them into positive ones such as how good a person you are, how wonderful it can be to forgive, and how wonderful it can be to love and care for a child that is not yours.





It will also be important for you to understand why your she left you and slept with another man. If you can understand her feelings, and forgive her, and tell her you still love her, it will be the greatest statement of love for her you can make. Tell her you will never leave her, and you will work with her to make your lives together happy and that the children will be taken care of and loved by both of you.





I wish you all the best.
Who told you she went out with an ex friend of yours. First of all, don't jump to conclusions. Number two, if the won't talk to you, talk to your ex-friend. Let him know who's territory he's messing on, but do in in a polite and proper way so that if she doesn't talk to you, you still haven't lost him as a contact with her.