How to deal with past cheating and insecurities?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 3 years. The first year he cheated on me all the time. We talked about it and I forgave him and took him back. But the problem now is that he is a freak. He loves sex and women. And although he hasn't cheated on me in 2 years I can't let it go.


I have so many insecurites. Physical, mental, emotional. Everytime he leaves I'm scared about where he is going and what he is doing. Everytime his phone rings I wanna know who it is. I hate it when he goes out because i cant trust him. The reality is that I am 24 and his 25 and I know he loves me deeply and has changed but I can't let it go. He has done everything to try to prove himself but its never ebough for me. He put a ring on my finger, he spends every day with me. but still, i can't let it go.


I chose to take him back because I love him and want to be with him.


But how do I let the past go and get over the insecurities because it is killing me and this relationship. Someone please help me.How to deal with past cheating and insecurities?
how do you really know that he hasn't cheated in 2 yrs. after a person cheats on you maybe you can never get over it i couldn't. i don't think people change overnight. if he cheated on you and you aren't even married just imagine whats in store for you if you do marry himHow to deal with past cheating and insecurities?
You will have to see a counselor to help you with this issue before you two get marry.





I don't know what forgiveness is and would drop any guy if he dares to play with me! Play and pay dearly!
If you have no trust in your relationship you have nothing really....... we are all different some can forgive and forget, some cant. I wouldn't be able to forgive and forget . You have to think long and hard its not only effecting your relationship but sounds like your well being too. May be go to a relationship counsellor see if their expertise can help you
Only you can help yourself.





You have self-esteem issues because of his actions.





You have to do what you love best.





Make yourself feel special and important.





If you wait around for someone else to give you what


you are supposed to give yourself...you will never be


fulfilled.





You have to have a life separate from him to find your worth.





Being with him 24/7 will only exacerbate the issues.





You have to allow him to go out and live, and it has to be


while you are going out to live...or this is not going to be


repaired.





Best wishes
i've been through this same thing. time is the only healer. it takes years sometimes because he needs to prove to you that he will never do it again.
So you didn't really forgive him. If this is going to be a life sentence then leave him now so you can both move on and be happy.